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  Do you have GOSSIPERS and those with STRONG PERSONALITIES that "control" the congregation?

  by BonaFide in

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  i bet a lot of others have, and its strange how so many are powerless to do anything.. one sister i know was married to another jw.

  he was unfaithful, she was crushed, he wasn't disfellowshipped, she forgave him, he was cruel, finally she committed adultery to get out of it.

  they divorced.

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  Off to a JW "Gathering"

  by treadnh2o in

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  i have not been to a meeting this year.

  yet i was invited to a witness "gathering" through my wife and kids.. i really don't want to go.. however, if my reason for not going is because of someones religion, i am really no different than they are.. guess i need to go based on principal.. i won't change my mind, but am interested in your take on this situation.. .

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  Wheee!!! spent a lovely evening with JW family *rolls eyes*

  by Odrade in

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  or not, as the case may be.

  in-laws' family members were visiting from out of town so we went over for the evening.

  my uncle-in-law is extremely religious.

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  Did you participate in STREET WITNESSING in your area? What was it like?

  by BonaFide in

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  here in southern california, the witnesses still do streetwork.

  i did it since i was a kid.

  i used to spend two hours every saturday morning from 7 to 9 am walking down the street near my house with my brother or sister.

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  In the past 20 years, have you seen a balanced, educated adult not raised by JW parents get baptized as a JW?

  by BonaFide in

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  i am not criticizing those who have gone through depression or a traumatic experience.

  nor am i criticizing those who were raised as a witness as i was.. but i am curious to know if any of you have seen a person from the territory, not a relative of a witness, no recent tragedies or emotional problems, not a young runaway, not a drug user, but an educated adult who began a study with jehovah's witnesses, and eventually got baptized.. when i was a missionary, i met a gilead couple who had been in their assignment for 19 years.

  i asked them about that.

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  When Did You First Get Exposed To "Apostate" Info? How Did It Affect You?

  by minimus in

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  as a kid, i used to read all the watchtowers of the 40s and 50s to see how the present day information developed from its original "thought".

  i was exposed to many eye opening statements but i swept them under the carpet (although it stayed in the recesses of my brain) until the time was right.. so for me, it was a gradual thing.. how were you affected by your first encounters with "apostate" material?

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  Have any of you had the experience of listening to a Witness' sad story, and not being able to tell them, ITS BECAUSE YOU ARE IN A CULT!?

  by BonaFide in

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  tonight i went out with some witnesses for coffee.

  one is an elder, and the others are pioneers, etc.

  two of them had a sad story of how other elders had treated them lately, and one talked about how the elders in her hall won't give her any assignments.

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  Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions regarding "attention seekers"?

  by BonaFide in

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  we all love it when people pay attention to us or our opinions.

  but what i am talking about is people who crave and force attention from others.

  not just people who talk a lot, but those that force everyone around them to focus on them and them only.. in one of my classes there is a woman who raises her hand to ask a question, but never really has a question to ask.

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  WTS causing more anguish

  by GapingMouth in

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  i don't really know where to start on my first post; i feel i have so much to say and yet i am so emotionally tired that it is hard to go through it all again in my head.

  but, i do need support and advice and so i will make the effort.. i started having doubts about certain beliefs of the witnesses about 2 years ago and did research since that i now come to the belief there is no god, and witnesses definitely are a cult.. at first it bothered me more on the god issue, but now i am more bothered by the cult issue, mainly because it dictates my life even though i am aware of it.. when i was a child, my mother and father divorced and my mother told me i will live with my father because she was going to die at armageddon being a non witness.

  i think, as well as many other pressures i cant list for fear of a very long post, this was the main pressure that made me get baptized even though i wasn't that happy being a witness.

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  I would like to know if you have succeeded in helping your friends or family SLOW DOWN in their zeal as a JW

  by BonaFide in

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  2. beliefs

  i have read thousands of posts on this forum, and i am finding with all your experiences that however hard we try, it's difficult to actually get a family member or friend to disassociate themselves.

  after all, some of us are still "active jw's", right?.

  but, i have been noticing that some seem to have accomplished enough with questions and comments that at least their family members or friends are less active as jw's.

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