Dansk,
Iv been reading this thread but have not had a chance to comment until now. I am sorry for the unfortunate circumstance with your daughters, I think most of us here on this board know exactly how you feel. That is why we all come here, to talk to and read comments from others who may be the only ones that truly do understand how we feel.
Your comments as well as how you present them indicates that you are an intelligent person. It looks to be that your intelligence is one of the main reasons you have chosen the new path that you, and some of your family members have embarked on. As with every EXJW on this board you have asked yourself the question "what do I do now"? Well, there are almost as many answers about that thought as there are questions. This board certainly has discussed a good majority of options and most have settled on their own version of spirituality and how they will live out the rest of their lives.
You have only been out a shot while. The reality of it all hasn't really set in yet. The reality that if the JW's are wrong then all their teachings are false and someday you are going to die. That's a real eye opener and that realization is one that six billion people on earth have come to grips with. I know my own mortality was one of the hardest reality checks I personally had to deal with. Growing up thinking I was never going to die messed me up a bit and caused me to not be a person who could deal with any true reality in life.
I have been out 19 years and in that time I have done what the JW's admonish all it's followers not to do. I read. After leaving the JW's I started to read books on topics that were very much frowned on by the religion. Books on philosophy, pagan religions, history of religion, science and psychology. My mind felt like it was being used for the very first time. It becomes painfully clear why the JW's do not want their followers to read books that were not written by their own hand. In reality the "truth" about anything is judged by examining information from both sides of an issue. The JW's in a very deceptive manner claim to give both sides of an issue, but, both sides they present are created by their own view and very specific agenda. They are masters at context manipulation and have used that technique to blindly convince their followers that they have the only truth about life.
Here are a few books that helped open my eyes to the other side of "truth."
The Power of Myth -By Joseph Campbell-
Since you mentioned something about the North American Indian and their thoughts on spirituality you might really enjoy this book. Thinking about your comment, you might have even read this book. If not, I know you will like it.
The Jesus Mysteries- By Timothy Freke & Peter Gandy
This book may open your eyes to the history of the Christian religion and how it was developed. There is very in-depth research in this book and its references are completely listed for the reader do his own research on how the authors came up with their conclusions. This book has rocked the Christian world and Christians would love it if it had never been written. Here are a couple of brief reviews of the book;
-The Jesus Mysteries proposed that the Jews had created their own version of
the ancient Mysteries with Jesus as their Osiris-Dionysus. How could this have happened?
The traditional history paints a picture of the Jews as an insular people…staunchly nationalistic
and fanatically devoted to their religion, fiercely loyal to their one god Jehovah and entirely hostile
to the Paganism of their neighbors. From this perspective, the idea that the Jews could possibly have
adopted the Pagan Mysteries seems unthinkable. And so it would be,
if any of this were true.-
-The Authors back up their thesis (that Christianity was a result of a grafting of The Pagan Mysteries onto a Judaeo-Christian branch) with statements such as the following, condemning the ideological “Church Fathers” of the Early Period, when Christianity was a loose affiliation of conflicting sects (including many, equally conflicting sects of “Gnosticism”)-
Beyond Good and Evil -Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
This is one of my favorite philosophers, his thoughts make me think as well as makes me laugh. The guy can be a real downer (he's an existentialist) but he makes a person think. It should be noted that he was also Hitler and Stalin's favorite philosopher. I think the reason I like him is a bit different from the reason Hitler and Stalin liked him.
Conversations With God -Neil Donald Walsh.
This book was fun to read and gives you an alternative way to look at who god might be. There were parts that made a lot of sense and some parts that were down right funny. It puts the thought of god into more of a human perspective in how a god might not be this blood thirsty ego maniac.
The Wisdom of Insecurity -by Alan W. Watts
This is a book that gives both sides of the science vs religion issue and has a lot of great philosophical thoughts that helps you look at life with a bit of a smile on your face. Watts's philosophy does not try and prove one or the other but instead tries to help people with convictions on both sides get along and think a little.
These are just a few good books that you might want to think about reading. They helped me. I got out before the Internet was available so I had to do a lot of my own thinking. I have never taken one book as an absolute truth about anything but instead have simply opened my mind to alternative thoughts that I was at one time forbidden to investigate. To let you know where my head is at, I am NOT a Christian nor a follower of any religious philosophy. If a person needs to put me into a category I would probably be labeled as an agnostic. I don't believe in the bible at all and only see it as a book of religious myth that has been used to manipulate gullible people. I also see the holy books from other religions as doing the same.
I have come to one absolute conclusion with all my reading and research about life and religion. That is, I love my three sons.
Take care and enjoy the journey.
Dave