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jgnat

Welcome to the board, Dansk. I hope your family will be restored to you, and that you will be able to make true and lasting friends amongst the "worldly folk". There is great hope for this, because I firmly believe that love is stronger than hate. Based on the awful behavior of the elders, I wonder if they view this scripture as commendable and even desireable,

Matthew 10:21 "Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rebel against their parents and have them put to death.

If so, they can join the great crowd of Pharisees who contributed to Jesus' death and considered it an obedient act fulfilling ancient prophecy.

Dansk

Hi Fe203girl,

Do you know Simon, Ang & ISP as they are in the same area?

Fe2O3Girl

Hi Dansk

I have met up with Simon, Ang, ISP and Latte. I did not know them when I was "in" (I left 9 years ago), but through this board, I have got in touch with Sirona, who was in my congregation, and her other half.

I have also met LittleToe. Chatting to Latte and LittleToe, I realised we knew some of the same people. I see you already know someone in common with ISP!

I was never in the "in crowd" around the Manchester area, so I did not know many people outside my own congregation, just a handful I met when convention volunteering.

Fe2O3Girl

Swan

Welcome Dansk & Family,

Your story is so tragic and unfortunately a very common one here. Don't give up hope. Maybe you, your wife, and your sons were meant to be the pioneers for others in your family to follow. You never know what seeds of doubt you have planted in your daughters' minds. Every time you contact them, promise them complete confidentiality. It may be just a matter of time before they contact you. When they do, never betray that confidence. I have done that with my own family and it appears to be slowly working.

Best wishes to you and I hope for the best.

Tammy

Gamaliel

Dansk,

Seems like most people on this board have been through this, and we really understand how heart-wrenching it is. It's great to see you thinking clearly through this ordeal.

When I left Bethel in the early 80's, I had already been preparing to leave for about 3 years, but I couldn't have done it gracefully, without support. I got that support from my wife. It's great to see a few of you doing this with each other's support (in spite of the problem of your daughters)

My brother left shortly after I did. My sister wouldn't believe any of my story, but left for her own reasons a couple years later -- and now understands it completely. My parents and grandparents on both sides were the staunchest against me, and my mother would have spit on me even for attending her brother's funeral a few years after I left (that uncle had left the JWs in the 1950s). Over the years, it's gotten much better with them, and although gradual, we now call each other regularly and have great conversations as long as I don't broach "spiritual" subjects. (Of course, they can mention their assemblies and what-not as often as they want.) They've even taken my children on camping trips and sent them gifts in December.

Each case is different, but it sounds like you have an excellent chance at getting the family back in good graces with each other, at least.

Gamaliel

Loris

(((((((Dansk & family))))))))

I am newly out. 6 months now. I was able to share what I had learned on this forum with my children. I have seven out of eight of them out and free. The last, the youngest daughter, is enjoying celebrity statis as was said by someone earlier. She is not baptized but the PO is the one cunducting the study. I hope that in time she will tire of the fake attention. She does not shun the rest of us. I don't think she will give up the tribe for the borg.

It is a sick organization. Equal to any totalitarian state ever created by demented men. It will crumble soon. I do not believe that it has enough strong leaders to maintain the control neccessary to survive. It's glory days are over. It is coasting downhill on the momentum of the past. It does not have any internal power source to go on it's own. We will all dance around it's funeral pire.

Peace, Loris

berylblue

What a story. My heart cries for you. If you need to talk, email me at [email protected]. I'm here for you. I'm kind of brain dead, but I do care.

Beryl

happyout

Dansk,

May I add my welcome to the board, and also to the world of minds set free. I cried when I read your story, and I admire the strength you had in telling it. I have been out for over a decade, but my mom and siblings are all still in, and total die hards. I am one of the very lucky ones, since I didn't get DF'd or DA myself, my family still talks to me, and we have a really great relationship. There are strains, of course, because I can't tell them what I learn, and help them out. The last thing I want is for them to label me an apostate, and stop associating with me. It is so hard sometimes, but I hope that with every "new light" a BRIGHT LIGHT will come on over their brainwashed heads and help them wake up.

Thanks again for sharing, you will find a ton of support on this board.

Happyout

Dansk

SCULLY,

I've just come across a sad posting you made a couple of days ago. I write now to say 'Thank you' for taking the time out, even in your moment of sadness, to consider the plight of my family and I. That was a most loving and moving gesture and proves, once again (as someone else mentioned), your immense value to this forum.

Thanks, again. We treasure everyone's comments, but yours especially under the circumstances.

Much love in return,

Dansk & Family

DanTheMan

Perhaps some good news today! My daughter works in a large supermarket and my wife and young son went shopping there today. My daughter let on to her brother and smiled at her mother.
Later my wife texted our daughter asking her when she was moving into her new apartment. SHE RECEIVED A REPLY!

WOOOHOOO!!!! No tears, but my throat got a little bit tight!

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