Honestly, what you judge (yes I chose that word deliberately) to be judgemental - I judge to be people being concerned for someone who is acting out in destructive ways to himself and others.
Frankly, I'd like to respectfully disagree with the sentiment, "Well we all make mistakes, and hey kids will be kids" attitude. Some mistakes are made as kids, but we're not talking about getting silly the first time we indulge in a little booze-arino. We're talking about diliberate drinking to get drunk and act out in socially unacceptable ways on purpose. To me, that's destructive and more than a few laughs and jokes.
In a community like this some of us have had to witness alcohol abuse, either within ourselves or in those we love.
In a community like this some of us have had to deal with suicide, either thoughts of our own, or friends and family taking their own lives.
In a community like this some of us have opinions on the best way one should exit the organization. Yee-ha do it with a bang, or silently slip into the background. That's a choice everyone makes for themselves and everyone will have an opinion on.
And the list goes on. It's still all about perspective. You see someone getting a little silly, and others see someone hurting. Who's judgement is the correct one?
Well we can debate that all day - and probably will - what with this being a message board and all...