Sour Grapes: The elders wanted to make a sheparding
call on me and I told them that I do not want one and to please respect my
privacy. So far so good. It is a shame that one can not just stop going to the
meetings without fear of not being able to talk to witness family members. It
is a truly sad religion run by men whose every word is viewed as coming from
the mouth of God.
freemindfade: You don't have to tell them anything. Just
tell them you are happy and fine, and nothing is wrong. Do not play into their
I agree with the comments shown above.
The org has no power over you. I know you don't want your family to shun you; that's completely understandable. However, if it does come to that, remember, they are the ones that are wrong. Their doctrines and theology are so fragile that they can't stand analysis and questioning, and JWs start whining whenever anybody challenges them.
Be strong. If you are shunned, remember that time is ever more shining a light of exposure on JWdom. The evidence against it is mounting. My JW family members are not outright shunning me, but they view me as weak and/or petty and/or evil. They treat me in a cautious, suspicious, guarded manner. I believe that as time goes on, people like you and me and many others on this site will more and more be shown to be right.
As for now, I agree with many others. I would not meet with them. If they ask to do a shepherding call on you, you could just answer in a nonchalant way "Oh, no thanks" and then walk away. If they ask through your husband, tell him to tell them that you appreciate the thought, but no thanks. You owe them nothing. JWdom owes you. You don't have to provide excuses or answers.
I am thinking about this. If they even dare mention anything about d/f or anything I will sue their asses off and bring it to the Supreme Court if necessary. I'm not joking. I'm at that point. I will raise hell.
Now you're thinking right.
I was an elder for a long time, and unless policy has changed, I can't think of any action they could take agaist you for simply being inactive and/or not coming to meetings.
As to removing your husband... well, that seems so unfair to me. If they think about removing him, then they need to consider removing Jah from his position because many of his children (angels) turned bad and so did his "wife" (the nation of Israel).
When I was serving as an elder, I would only consider removing a man whose wife was inactive if it could be shown that the man was at fault. The thing that's so unfair in the case of you and your husband is that the fault is the org's, not your husband's!!! The notion that he might be removed as an elder because of the org's faults is so unjust, but as somebody said, if that were to happen, maybe it would help him to wake up.