My tactics are making inroads on my hardcore JW wife

by Awakened at Gilead 108 Replies latest members private

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  SuperApostateGirl

  Don't hate my because I'm beautiful but,shunning as you know is a means of control and now your poor wife is getting it from both sides.

  Isn't there a better way than stooping to the organizations level? I know I am prepared for your answer..Hmm?
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  Awakened at Gilead

  Hi beautifulSAgirl,

  Thanks for the comment, but it was to make a point and it didn't last... my wife and I are definitely on apeaking terms now...lol.
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  Invetigator74

  You have a PM

  Investigator 74
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  OnTheWayOut

  I have only read the initial post starter.

  For the record, even though I suggested giving your wife more time,
  I did not feel that you could seriously alter your own methods enough
  to hold back your feelings. I just thought clubbing her over the head
  with anti-JW stuff was going too fast for her to accept it.

  Anyway, also for the record- congratulations on your inroad.

  To be balanced, the things she really is ticked about and that make
  her look at things closer are not so much doctrinal. She seems to
  be noticing the elders and their lack of procedural care and their lack
  of love, and she notices the change in the friends around her.

  But whatever works. I have pointed out to my wife that the elders don't
  shepherd me, don't even call me. She just says "Isn't that what you
  want? Didn't you make that clear?" Any effort on my part to get more
  involved with helping to free her mind or tackle the doctrine, my wife
  will just stop listening. If I went against the brothers for not speaking to
  me if I were to DA, I am pretty sure she would side with them for their
  reaction. Many others are also. As you mention, "not everyone will have
  this same result, and each one knows their own family."

  I will try to call you this weekend. It sounds like things are up and down
  for you, so I am glad to hear such a positive report.
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  tiffy0212
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  tiffy0212

  Good for you. I wish I could see that graph myself. What was the date of the article you used? I would like to drop that on my husband's desk. Hope your wife opens her eyes.
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  Awakened at Gilead

  Alright, I have finished the charts and a word doc with apostate commentary...

  Download here:

  http://www.4shared.com/dir/8210205/2cb4ccbe/Partakers_increasing.html

  Feel free to use as you see fit....

  Lance
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  megs

  Thank you for the file! I was glad to see that you're wife is thinking a bit about things... Baby steps! I hope it continues to go well!
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  davidguest

  Hello,

  I am new here, and have left over the last few years. My book will be published in the next 12 months. Of all the evidence damning the organization, I saw nothing as strong at Deuteronomy 18:20,21. when this is compared with the history of the society, it is clear that we are told to stay away. For a while, I tried to go with the flow after realizing it was wrong, as it was still a good, clean lifestyle. We paid our taxes, and did not (physically) hurt anyone. This scripture made is amazingly clear to me to get out. Oddly enough, in thorough study since then, I have ignored the bible completely and religion in general.
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  jgnat

  At this point, much of her questioning is coming as a result of how JWs are treating her... this is not something I am doing, but what they are doing.

  I must say this is my experience as well. It has been the Witnesses themselves, and their bad behavior, that has come closest to pushing my hubby out. Some days all I have to do is sit back and watch.