RS, let me give you an example of how I manage my situation, which isn't so far off from yours.
When my JW neighbor started to try to share her religion with me, she gave me a booklet, Should You Believe the Trinity? I had seen this booklet before, years ago. I already knew that the JW's had a ton of whacky history and unsupportable doctrines; I had already read that booklet, and I think it's in a file somewhere (so now I actually have 2 of them). But I read it afresh and found myself thinking, what is the rebuttal for these claims? (Like I mentioned above, there is a need to check for rebuttals/questions.) Because in the booklet, it lends itself to a fairly air-tight case.
I went online, which is what one can do these days (as opposed to yesteryear)... and found all kinds of sites dedicated to uncovering the piecemeal tactics of WT arguments: misquoting, misleading, editing carefully to present a false conclusion... and I was disgusted all over again at the deception in that booklet.
When I talked to my friend about this eventually, I told her that I had been so concerned about the good-sounding claims in the booklet that I decided to research them myself. And that what I learned actually cast more doubt on the WT's integrity. She has no ground for telling me I CAN'T research anything! I'm not baptised, remember? And if she asks me if I got the information at an apostate site, I say, "Information is true or false in itself, regardless of its source." I don't have to toe the JW line at all! I have the works of the Anti-Nicene Fathers on a disc, and I am able to look up the quotes in context, for example, besides find them easily online. If an apostate source quotes the reference in full and get it right, then they are right!
My friend has nothing to say in response. I have the moral upperhand in refusing to accept WT reportings now, at least without verifying everything, because I can show her specifically where they were intellectually dishonest. She has to give me better substantiation.
Beside the tactic of misquoting, they use poor logic in guilt by association, or making conclusions out of correlations (there are Latin names for these kinds of fallacies in logic, but I can't remember their names right now! ). So, for example, three-headed gods from local nations are NOT an airtight case for Christians creating a trinity out of pagan roots, much as they would like to insist. She says it is; I say it's not conclusive in any way, so it's a draw; we can't go any further on this tack, so we drop it.
But I don't rub her face in it. And whenever I see a problem, I tell her that something looks like a red flag to me, and I can't just rush past it. And when I do research it, I can show her that there's just not the "case" for the WT as she has believed. Maybe this is a reason she tends to avoid preaching to me now...
Like I said before, you really are in an ideal situation, not blocked in at all. Once you are able to finish grieving emotionally over the situation of being so far from God after all... after feeling so close!.... you might recognize that you have been certainly rescued early from a very miserable fate, which is a cause for some thankfulness (you'll probably feel more thankful as more time goes by).
(((((RS))))) Again, I'm not saying you must turn into a big apologist. I'm just saying, dig in your heels in a nice way, as you refuse to compromise with integrity. People will eventually leave you alone because they can't satisfy you, if nothing else!
Sorry if this all sounds redundant to my earlier post, but I thought it might help to see exactly the kind of thing I meant. Of all potential conditions you could have as a wife to a JW, count yourself blessed!
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