((((Mario))))
I just caught up with about three weeks of posts on this thread. I am so grateful that you are still here with us, still processing your enormous loss, and still persisting on the road to better mental health and overall well-being.
When you wrote of wanting to save all of Talia's things -- seeing them, touching them as a way to be in closer contact with your baby, I nearly cried. I understand this so well. When I was 19 my dad died, and I kept one of his shirts near to smell it for the longest time. Right now, I have a handkerchief of my mom's in my bedroom. It doesn't really smell of her anymore, but it did for a while and I just like to have it near. What I've done recently, when I've felt the need for their support somehow, is to place a piece of jewelry of my sister's and mom's, and a small medal my dad won, in my medicine pouch which I carry in my purse. The act of placing the items in the pouch and sort of inviting their presence into my day is soothing to me. Of course, the most recent of these deaths is 18 months ago, so I have had more time to mourn than you, plus it wasn't my little girl. But I offer this as an idea for something you might find helpful in the future. To keep a small piece of Talia with you, rather than having all her things constantly before you.
My heart goes out to you and at the same time I'm cheering inside, because you are doing so well!!! To know that you and Marina are carefully renewing your relationship is wonderful! That you are spending some time doing something you truly enjoy -- football/soccer -- is a positive thing! And sharing it with Marina? Fabulous!
I can't say it often enough, Mario. You are my hero. Never mind second-guessing yourself. It comes through very well in your posts just the kind of man you are: a caring, decent human being and loving, dedicated father. Believe it. Please.
Love,
outnfree