... this is EXACTLY what I have been saying from my first post onward! It is not even an approximation of my point, it is my exact point. -- hillary_step
We agree, then!
However, I must point out to you that you seem to have made statements that appear to be contradictory. In your initial post in this discussion, you said:
AlanF for example, can be rather cutting at times when dealing with subjects that he is passionate about, but I can assure you that in ‘real-life’ he is as gentle and kind a person as you would ever meet... I think that more than evaluating the importance of kindness in honesty, we might think about whether we can adapt ourselves to suit the environment of a discussion board, or whether we are better of turning off the computer and seeking new pastures. (teejay's emphasis)
There, I thought you were suggesting that people (other than Alan) needed to adjust their online posting style to suit the environment of an online forum. From that standpoint, you seemed to bolster that argument when you said
"the presentation of honesty in an on-line scenario, may be different to how it is expressed in real-life, and may also not suit our *own* notions of how it should best be presented in writing. Many authors, journalists poets, musicians and artists, have altered the course of empires by delaring the truth in a harsh manner." (teejay's emphasis)
... and when you said
Unless of course you are the son of God and 'harshly' refer to you enemies as, 'offspring of vipers', 'Whitewashed graves', 'Leaven'. Sometimes harsh words are required to *validate* honesty (teejay's emphasis)
Now that I find we have been essentially saying the same thing all along, I view your INITIAL POST in a totally different light. NOW I view your statement
I think that more than evaluating the importance of kindness in honesty, we might think about whether we can adapt ourselves to suit the environment of a discussion board... (teejay's emphasis)
... to mean that it's Alan who may need to adapt his posting style to suit the sensibilities of fellow posters. Do I understand you correctly? If not, would you please clarify what you meant by these seemingly contradictory statements?
tj ~ who, as the board knows, often lives in a fog...