I was never sexually abused as a child. I do know homosexuals that were. I know far more heterosexual women that were.
There are so many pieces to the puzzle.
I know homosexuals from all types of family households.
It does seem that most of my male gay friends are closer to their mothers than to their dads. Which is cause and which is effect. Are they closer because they are gay or are they gay because they are closer.
It seems more youngest brothers are gay, no scientific fact, just seems that way.
I'm not in the gay gene camp. I think its more complex than that.
An error in my brain. Certainly a possibility I have considered. Most of my friends would say its a difference in the brain rather than an error.
I've read a lot of theories. Mutation to control population is a favorite, but if so, it hasn't done much good. and the mutation doesn't keep gays from wanting to have children. I know many who do or who want to.
Lifestyle. Hmmm. 2 men 2 cars, house in suburbs, watch movies at home a lot. Not much of a lifestyle, but we'll take it.
Showtune, fabulous. 95% of the gay men I know love show tunes, Why? I don't know but when I was 10, I absolutely fell in love with the music from West Side Story and it happens to be the only musical Mitch will sit and watch with me. He didn't get the show tune gene.
Fashion sense. I wear baggy blue jeans and T shirts most of the time. My belt and shoes match only by accident.
Promiscuous. In my experience gays are pretty promiscuous. All that testosterone. There are some who live quiet non promiscuous lives though. So thats not a 100% thing.
I know no men who like little boys as sex objects. Mitch and I were talking about this the other day. Have sex with a 7 year old, a 10 year old, a 3 year old. It just grosses us out. Not that we aren't dirty old men. We love flirting with 20 something daddy chasers. Mitch will be 50 this year, can I trade him in on two 25's.
We celebrate 14 years a week from today. We are soul mates. True love between two men can happen and often does. We know more single gay men than coupled which I think is sad. Its just too easy to move on from one man to the next. Grass is greener and all.
Boy George says homosexuality will never be totally accepted because of the anal sex thing. Just too disgusting for the general public. I can understand that I suppose. But it just rocks my world. What can I say? The sling in the basement speaks for itself.
We do love Judy Garland and Ethel Merman and Madonna and Cher. I think they represent a level of freedom that is appealing to us.
The best movies to watch to get a feeling for how it feels to be gay.
A Beautiful Thing (British)
The Sum of Us (Australian)
Priscilla Queen of the Desert (have to listen to the conversations and forget about all the drag)
The Wizard of Oz (just kidding)
All gay movies are about young guys coming out which is great. Its about time they made a movie about middle aged homos. But that would be too boring I suppose. Two hours of me working on my azaleas and Mitch doing laundry. We have very little drama in our lives except for my panic attacks which are mostly under control thankfully.
You will never figure us out. We can't figure ourselves out. We will always have our crushes on straight men, just say no thanks. We'll just go home and dream about you. You can't stop that.
You can try to change us all you want. It won't work. Threaten us. Quote Scripture. Envoke the wrath of god. The next guy that comes along with big burly arms and a hairy chest will still turn my head.
We'll always be among you, always have. We're just more fabulous now.