Shadow,
Again, I appreciate your candor. I do not know many active elders who would have been willing to discuss this as openly and honestly as you have.
shadow: However many wrongfully df'd not only blame the humans, they also take it out on Jehovah and then do become unfaithful (Luke 17:1).
I will not let anyone take my integrity away from me. I will be reasonable (yielding) to that point, but no further. But I remain at a loss for how to work "freeness of speech" into the equation without being disfellowshipped. I see no indication of Jesus "waiting on Jehovah" to vocally, and in some cases physically, correct wrongdoing that he personally observed in the earthly organization of his day. When I mentioned that to my father he says, "But that was God's Son. You are not God's Son."
I readily agree, of course. But if Christ is my exemplar, then doing what he did the way he did it is not wrong. Paul appears to have the same view of correcting the earthly organization with great freeness of speech, equal freeness to that with which he preached. Paul also invites us to imitate him, even as he imitated Christ. In fact, this trait of very forcefully correcting Jehovah's visible organization was evidenced in both of the only two humans the Bible directly invites us - from the lowly sheep to the Zone Overseers - to imitate.
Can any visible organization at any time remove authority and instructions Jehovah has given with Jehovah's blessing?
I recently (within the last six months) had the pleasure of receiving an elder's praise for how I handled a call I accompanied him on. The woman was asking who we believed our mediator to be. The brother stammered and hedged a minute before I spoke up and said, "I have one mediator between myself and God, a man, Christ Jesus." The lady of the house beamed when I showed her the scriptural proof. After commending the way I handled it the brother corrected my accuracy of statement. "We," he patiently explained, "do not have a mediator with Jehovah. We are not in a covenant relationship with him."
I answered with complete freeness of speech, was completely honest, and played mute when the brother counseled me on the point. I felt like crap restraining my freeness of speech. I worked counter to the holy spirit by biting my tongue and it ate me up. But I knew that if I pressed the point one question would lead smoothly to another and I would be invited to attend a Judicial Committee - one that I would never go to. (1 Corinthians 4:1-5)
Paul said, "You are not cramped for room within us ..." (2 Corinthians 6:11,12) But I am cramped for room. And it isn't in my own tender affections that I am cramped. It is in a burdensome Pharisaical organizational structure that has no more of God's blessing than did the Pharisaical arrangement of Jesus' day. While the Kings were willing to do Jehovah's will, he used that structure and blessed the arrangement they devised. But as soon as the Kings ceased strictly adhering to his commands ... you know the rest.
You mentioned that Jesus went along with some festivals and customs, but were these not also the law of the land? Was not the "fence around the law" also law? Does that not mitigate his involvement in those activities, to a degree? As far as I can determine, he did not go along with any customs or traditions that violated his conscience or that would encourage others - by his visible example - to break God's laws or work contrary to Jehovah's principles.
Respectfully,
OldSoul