WHY have you not been on JWfacts.com?????
It seems you really want to filter our responses and see what you want to see.~Wakanda
I did look that up. Last night before I saw him.
Please, I am not a troll. I am a real person who started dating a JW a few months ago. Since I am not that familiar with it I am honestly seeking advice about him. I am not seeking to cause trouble, but I am trying to decide what is best for me.
I did see him last night. I asked him all kinds of questions about his faith and our relationship.
1) I told him that I read that he is not supposed to do online dating. He told me it is ok, but discouraged because they don't want JW's getting involved with worldly things like drinking and doing drugs.
2) I told him that I read that he was not supposed to date me because I was not a JW. He said that it was discouraged but he would not get into trouble for spending time with me.
3) I asked him about our sexual relationship. He agreed that we should not have had sex and he said that is why he has not allowed us to in the past few weeks. But then he said that once he gets baptized he will have to stop doing that.
4)He told me he was not baptized. Does that change the rules of our relationship?
5) He asked me where all these questions were coming from and I told him I read these things online. He asked me if I looked at the jw.org page and I said.. I am not sure. (Was not gonna tell him about this forum). He told me I need to only read the things on the JW.org page he sent me and I should avoid things like this because sites like this are apostates(did I spell that right?) and they try to discourage people from being a JW and spread lies about being a JW.
I told him I was uncomfortable just being a friend and I wanted to be more than just a friend. I did not want to be treated like a placeholder and his behavior was making me feel that way. He refuses to make me his GF and keeps telling me I am his best friend forever and that he always wants me in his life and because of that he refuses to get into a relationship with me because he is afraid we will eventually break up.
I told him I wanted to stop seeing him. I told him that his actions were hurting me. He started to cry. He cried that he hurt me. He begged me not to end it. He told me not to ghost him or write him out of my life. He told me I was his best friend and he loved me and I was the most important person in the world to him. I was kind of thrown off by the tears. I have ended things with guys in the past and never got an hour long crying show.
And now we get to the part that really bothered me. He told me that he was not ok with us ending things. I asked him if I blocked his number how he would contact me? He said he would show up to my house. I asked him what he would do if I was not home. He said he would wait for me outside of my house until I got home. I asked him what he would do if I moved and he said he would show up at my job.
We only dated 6 months. I am not his girlfriend and he made it abundantly clear he didn't want a future with me.. We are not even have sex right now.... so.. Why would he be so freaked out about ending things with me? Is this normal for a JW?
