I like your approach however I fear the rift may be to wide at this point and its hard for people to back down after a certain point. I happen to know for a fact that Bill Bowen has/had something that needed to be done and that TH is well qualified to do it but Bill specifically did not ask TH to do it because he was concerned that TH had enough to worry about because of his employment status.
Siege mentality is what I see going on here, and that is to bad because it replaces coherent thought. I only wish I could sit RevMal, Trauma, and Bill down and get you guys shit-faced and maybe we could all have a good laugh over this. And if that didnt work, maybe Hawkaw and me could get blasted, sit on the side and watch you guys beat the shit out of each other while we laugh our asses off until we puke. J
I dont want to get all mushy or anything, but most of us were JWs at one time and many of us sacrificed a lot because of this and we stayed JWs until we saw the light, largely because we wanted to do the right thing. What Im saying is that within the X-JW community are probably some pretty good people. I dont really know you folks and you dont really know me, but based on what I do know about X-JWs, I would say the odds are you are all pretty much OK.
Just something to think about as you decide if you want to work things out with each other or not. The choice is yours and the ball is in your court.