JamieBowers - thanks for the reminder. I had forgotten that Cognac posted that stay-at-home mom and dads thread. So you are supporting his ass while he sits at home and expects you to do all the work while he gets it on with some little JW chick? Hmmm. Sheds some new light on your problem, I would say. Cognac - I've been cheated on and it's horrible. I've also survived as a single parent. It's not easy, but it's better than staying in a relationship where you are valued so little.
I'm inclined to think that in your situation it's time for you to be strong, get out, file for divorce and hold your head up high. Moshe gave some adivce on another thread about taking decisive action rather than taking things slow because it could be a lifesaver. I didn't agree with him in that case, but I think it's good advice for you. If you are the one to take action now, I think you will be better off in the end. It might wake your husband up and let him see what he's losing (if you still think the marriage is worth saving). If it doesn't, it will put you in a position of strength because you are not taking the victim role. You will have the power to take your life in the direction you want it to go.