Wife has vowed to remain JW (page 4)

kairos

Things were going pretty well for a good 10 days.

I blew it again and couldn't shut my mouth.

She listened and we worked things out, but it was my fault again.

I'm so impatient for something she says will never happen.

cappytan

I'm still in but waking up.

My wife is still in, still feels it's the truth. But she said something to me last night.

She said her loyalty was first of all to Jehovah and our marriage, and not to a bunch of suits in Brooklyn.

She mentioned that they were imperfect men and that she follows their direction as long as she feels it harmonizes with scripture. But that if something doesn't or the bible is silent on the matter, she agreed with me that we must obey God as ruler rather than men.

kairos

My wife has expressed no doubts what so ever.

Also has dismissed every point of reason/result of research I have presented or linked to. JWFacts, JWSurvey, here,, YouTube, etc

So I do my thing and she does hers. We already spend more quality time together than ever and she likes to travel. I need to be satisfied with that. Other than the time she spends being a JW, we live a really great life together. No other complaints.

mikeypants

My mom has said before that even if its not the truth she would not leave. She says that even if its wrong, living by the watchtower's standards is the best way of life...

I gave her the deer in headlights stare for a few minutes.

My wife is a dub and I have decided to drop all dubya talk - it gets nowhere and she isn't going to listen to any argument if it goes against the watchtower.

The only way I see anything changing is if they switch the 144,000 to symbolic, she said there was no chance of that happening.

In the meantime, im just being a loving husband and do not talk religion with her. We agreed that she wouldn't pressure me to go to meetings and I wouldn't pressure her to not.

goingthruthemotions

mikeypants,cappytan,kairos, oneeyedjoe, stuck and whom ever else has a mate that is blind to TTATT and we are awake.

it sucks...i know for a fact that eventually my issue with my wife is going to come to a head sooner or later. i just can't keep going and pretend. I am sending a wrong message to my kids.

she will turn on her cult ears when i tell her the falacys of the washtowel. one of my biggest beefs is the mind control. i flat out don't appreciate it. this is one thing she can't deny.

like mikeypants...i just try to be a supportive husband and loving and never to talk about religion with her...

i am currently in counseling and will continue...if this breaks up my marriage, i will need the support.

i really try to read alot of Hassan books and info...and take it day by day and keep her authentic person available as much as possible.

joinging this cult was the worse mistake of my life.....if i could turn back time!

shalom

TTWSYF

I think the better way would be to use an analogy. Advice that I got here on this board seemed very helpful.I'm trying to use it. My brother and his family are in this false truth [i mean really, lying for the truth?!]

A member [sorry, I forget who] gave an excellent analogy.

Pose this question "Would you send your children to a school [daycare, hospital, knitting circle] where you were not allowed to compare to other schools [daycares, hospitals, knitting circles etc]?" How about you also were not allowed to talk to former students, patients, knitters, etc. Who would send their children to such organizations?

just saying

kairos

**UPDATE**

We have started to communicate via e-mail and have agreed to limit JW conversation to a minimum face to face.

I look at this as progress.

As a woman, she doesnt have much status as it is.

Miss Fit

Wife has vowed to remain JW

kairos

cappytan

kairos

mikeypants

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TTWSYF

kairos

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