1)Does leaving JWs leave every one so bitter? 2) Is it not possible to have any happy memories? 3) Does every single belief , moral , value disintegrate?
1) Mostly everyone, especially those with a brain.
2) Some do, but the WTS has become tired, boring , stale, and rehashed as far as teachings go....and more demanding and tyrannical as far as living goes. When the sheep are told that they "couldn't/shouldn't/ better not" leave a district assembly for lunch (for instance), it goes a long distance from bordering on the ridiculous. Before I left. we were even told that we could not have our lunch (after travelling for HOURS with not much money to spend) in the manner we had done this in previous years. The WTS viewed it as "tailgate style" and we were told that we were not at a sporting event.....this is ONLY the tip of that monstrous iceberg known as WTS Rulez & Regz.
3) I now have very substantial beliefs----that are not "subject to change" due to a whim of a WTS writer. Reading my new bible (the NWT is twisted garbage---a by-product of twisted minds and teachings of men in Brooklyn who have no more control over your salvation than Donald Duck).
The teaching to the now-dwindling masses of JWs that all who leave the WTS have no morals or no goals, etc etc.....is more twisted teachings of those same men I mentioned before. I live the same way, with the same values (maybe MORE becase I don't ask someone what religion they are before I either help them or befriend them as you do) and I lead what you may think is a boring (but satisfying TO ME) life!
I have the FREEDOM to choose who I wish to associate with, where I wish to go, and more importantly---where I choose NOT to be EXPECTED TO GO at at least five times per week! I can choose to speak to others about my Lord and Savior when the occasion arises (and it DOES---more often than you might realize) and I am not seen a a pest banging on people's doors to tell them what THEY are in essence, doing all wrong and that becomiing a JW is the only way they will gain God's approval!
I am no longer critically judgemental over "other religions" as I used to be, and I am a LOT more at ease with others and not continually "on guard" because I know I cannot be someone's friend unless they agree to a "study". I am an entirely different person---all in a postive sense, but I DO have 30 years of issues and a wrecked family that I am forced to cope with BECAUSE of my involvement in the "religion that shows love". My nonJW family never saw it that way.
I should mention the JOY of Christ that has replaced the drudgery of the "joy" of being a JW, subservient to the demanding and devious WTS.....but I know my words will fall on deaf ears and have no meaning for you. The sham that you are taught to believe that is the Christ---and how very VERY LITTLE you actually know and truly appreciate about him...is not only extremely sad, but pitiful. You do not know him----nor does he know YOU. The trade-off is too precious to me.....and although you mistakenly believe this---your allegiance to the WTS is NOT the means to salvation......not even close.