I remember one. She became my officemate, and then was assigned to be my BS conductor. She was seated beside me at work... and I never got the feeling that she was on top of things. Most of the time she was in a mad dash to work, arriving later that most of us. I saw her frequently browsing the internet (while I focused on work - because, heck, I was paid to deliver and deliver it well!) and chatting with someone... who later turned out to be the the congregation's most eligible bachelor/elder. Long story short, she quit the job months later and got married. Word has it that they're now happily living together both as inactive JWs. Cheers! 😁
Posts by ohnightdivine
9 zachias in
a small incident happened to me today that has triggered me to say this.. how many of you have seen that jw are fairly hopeless and being anywhere on time.. an obvious one is the families that never miss a meeting and never miss arriving late with resultant fuss.
but in day to day things as well.arriving late for a paid job.. leaving early, ditto.. not turning up for a bbq without even a phone call.. being in all things disorganized.. and, how many of you have seen the above become the norm in people once they become jw that were not that way before....
Can Anyone Help Me Modify My Profile? (especially these UGLY icon/avatars) Uggghhh! Nothing works...won't save changesby utopian_reformist_returns in
none of my changes save, and no messages or warnings or errors to indicate why?
is that turned off?
why isn't there any feedback from the server?
Hahaha. I think our avatars look funny and ugly, but I don't mind it 😅 Let us know, though, how you're able to change it.
3 ohnightdivine in
it's been 3 years since i last visited and posted here in this site.
i wonder if there is anyone here now whom i've had the chance to interact through my posts and comments from years ago.. i just wanted to share that:.
my bible study teacher tried to contact me all of a sudden 2 weeks ago.
Hi everyone! It's been 3 years since I last visited and posted here in this site. I wonder if there is anyone here now whom I've had the chance to interact through my posts and comments from years ago.
I just wanted to share that:
- My Bible study teacher tried to contact me all of a sudden 2 weeks ago. I still miss her, but at the last minute I was able to politely decline her invite for a videocall. What for? To "come back to the truth?" I just told her I was caught up with my work and school tasks and would be probably available some other time. She was a precious part of my past, but I can no longer be the "gentle, warm-hearted, obedient" 19 year-old she used to know. Heck, I'm almost 40 now. 😅
- My other Bible teachers and congregation "friends" have said hello, join the Zoom meeting, etc. I have managed to politely decline or ignore their messages.
- It feels great not to hear guilt-mongering talks, asking how you can do more, more, and more.
- It feels great not to be mentally chained to a belief system and to a group of people who think they are the only blessed ones.
- It feels great to not really have to care for much of the routines set by that group. Many were just going thru the motions, any way.
- I have managed to enroll in graduate school and I think I can finish the program, hopefully, in a year.
- I am back in the workforce again, getting busy and being productive, and able to care for my family and loved ones.
- I am in a real, romantic relationship for the first time in my life. (Again, I'm almost forty.) It feels good to have someone accept you for who you are and together hope for a positive future while working on our own careers. I got kissed for the first time this year. (A big milestone for me!)
- My close friend who is PIMO is still struggling with cognitive dissonance. And she's living with her fervent JW mom. I'm still trying to think about how I can help her.
This is all for today from me. I hope everyone is doing okay despite the pandemic. To those who are new to this site, please please know that you are not alone. Help can be found here. A new job, a new hobby, a new place, a new set of friends can help a lot in lessening the pain of being a JW.
Merry Christmas! Or, happy holidays!
24 Biblestudent1 in
i have been working through the grey book with a married couple for several months.
actually after a while what happened was a different brother or sister got invited each week to my study.
i met lots and lots.
Feeling like you're letting other people down when you miss a meeting... ahh, what an oh-so-familar thing. The more it becomes serious once you are baptized. Congratulations on walking away from it! Your life is in your hands.
25 Biblestudent1 in
i have done bible study for about four months now.
the married couple who do it with me are lovely.
i have attended meetings for about two months.
As someone who was also a "Bible student before eventually getting "baptized" in a pool many years ago, please.... run away.
Almost all JWs who "conduct Bible studies" are very nice because they want to recruit people. That's it. Some are kind and well-intentioned. But once you become a JW yourself, you will feel suffocated.
519 UnshackleTheChains in
i was howling watching cedars latest video of tm111 buying a dozen bottles of scotch ((maccallans scotch).
you can't write this stuff.
right, i'm now off to buy a bottle of maccallans 😂..
Where's the link, please?
Edit: I found it online already..
79 Maria Nieves in
i have been studying with jehovah's witnesses for approximately two years.
initially, i liked the studies and felt that i was growing closer to god.
however, as the studies progressed, they seemed to become increasingly negative and i did not like what i was being taught.
Hi Maria Nieves,
I saw myself in your post.
It may be difficult to just stop, especially when you think about your relationship with your Bible study conductor and how much time she has "devoted" to studying with you
However, the best time to stop is now.
The universe is giving you a gentle nudge that something is wrong with this religion. It is better to stop now than to feel forced, get baptized, and feel forced to worship the organization for the rest of your life.
My Bible study conductor whom I was very close with does not "care" any more, even when I became I witness. The moment we express any doubts to JWs, things get complicated.
I really really hope you control this situation now and control your future while it is still early.
17 HappyBlessedFree in
i stopped attending meetings about three months ago.
after researching everything i could find on jehovahs witnesses (which is a lot) i can happily say i am awake and free.
i was a baptized witness for over 25 year.
Welcome to the forum! I'm glad that you are free and sound happy.
Like you, I was also born in a Catholic family, but my family is open-minded when it come to individual beliefs so I took a journey to becoming a witness by myself for many years. I have stopped attending meetings for quite some time now.
What I'd like to say have been expressed so much more eloquently by Cofty and John so I guess I don't have anything to add... I hope that you, your husband, and your child can all fully experience freedom and happiness away from the org.
35 CivilServant79 in
hi there this is my first post as i’m not sure what to do.
my family (both sides) are well known in our circuit and very dedicated to the truth.
but we’re relatively normal people and i love them all so much.
Play the "just tired and depressed" card. No need to mention your doubts about your faith or the organization IF you are not yet prepared to have your ties severed with your family members.
You'll do fine.
23 ohnightdivine in
recently, i wrote a sister, my bible study conductor, an email just telling her that i thought of her, and i thanked her for being a part of some milestones in my life many many years ago.
(for those who are reading my post for the first time, i was a very impressionable teenager at that time and i had the chance to live in their country for a while, spent much time with her, got to know her way of living, and essentially she became my life's mentor.
closer to me than family.
I thought about that exact thing, too. Bragging rights. Thanks for mentioning it.
To Pete Zahut and all the other good people who commented here, I really appreciate your time and sharing your thoughts.. It's helping me accept that what has happened was not normal, and that I am ok to feel this way. I think I can recover from this without the baggage of my own self doubts.