Sounds lke they have accepted them before, so they will probably accept them again, but, again, without acknowledgment. You are doing the right thing for the kids, you obviously have a lot of love and compassion. Try not to be hurt, just think of the kids. You respected their beliefs having them wrapped in non-holiday paper. The kids will be thrilled and will be able to secretly share what gifts they recieved at school. You are showing true Christian qualities here. You are Awesome! Merry Christmas!
ruderedhead
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The packages will arrive today... What do you think will happen?
by Faithful Witness ini have decided that ignoring my niece and nephew during the holidays, is the most unloving thing i could possibly do.
they stopped celebrating christmas and birthdays, after my sister began studying with jw's about 6-7 years ago.
we did not celebrate either, until 3 years ago, when my son was 2 and my daughter was 4, and we'd figured out that the jw's are wrong about this decision.
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How to get through an Assembly?
by kaxozula inme just learning the truth about the truth has just made it hard to even get through a two hour meeting at the the kingdom hall.
i get so sleepy during them and i almost cannot contain it!
the last time i went to a convention, i was still an avid believer but as you can see, that has changed.
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ruderedhead
You've received some great suggestions here. Volunteer for anything (making you look zealous, while getting you out of listening), offer to take a fussy baby/child for a short walk to give the parents some relief (making you look thoughtful, again while getting you away from the talks, just don't be gone more than 20-30 min.), and if you must, take many notes. This will keep your parents off you track.
I hope you are doing something to improve your chances for a better paying job. I am assuming you are a young person, so if you have to play the game for a while, do what you have to. Just have a long range plan for your future. If your parents object to your getting some type of higher education, be it college or trade school, tell them it is for the future, you will be able to give more to the society if you have a better paying job, without needing to worry about paying bills, working 2 jobs, etc. You will be able to give your all to them.
Be patient, you can do this!
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oh dear I think I messed up and pushed too hard
by Frazzled UBM inreading all the posts on the wt study on higher education and careers really fired me up yesterday.
i have 2 undergraduate and 2 postgraduate degerees and a career as a result which allows me to provide well for my jw wife and son.
i was already unhappy because after 5 or 6 weeks of not going and appearing to be making progress she went back on sunday for the second sunday in a row and as usual was away all day.
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ruderedhead
Sounds like you are a man that usually thinks thing through.
Hmmm, you say that she has old friends from the Phillipines in her current congregation, giving her a sense of community. Are there any any Fillipino organizations in the community you could join with her to help her develop a new sense of community & help the kids identify a bit more with Mom's heritage?? Don't know if she would be open to that, but it might be worth a shot. All the best to you, crazy. Keep up the good fight, and Merry Christmas!
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I met a lovely x JW sister this morning
by KateWild inon my way to work, i saw my neighbour from the next street sitting at the bus stop as usual.
i always offer her a lift and say hello and try to "encourage" her.. the family was in our book study, the kids know i love them to bits.. well did the flood gates open or what, she has got old mags she wants show me, internet websites.
if she is on here she hasn't worked it out yet.
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ruderedhead
Another one bites the dust, Kate? Hoping she finds her way out. Please keep us updated!
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scum bag elder
by Crazyguy inso last night i had a family meeting and told my kids that i was quitting as a jw and then gave my wife my da letter to give to the one elder i like at the hall tonight.
so this morning i see a text from the co elder the one that met with me and is gunning to get me out and had already tried to get me to a jc meeting this week.
so the text reads "your wife has informed me of your letter and its sad to hear, would like to meet one last time not as a jc, to be sure this is what you want.".
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ruderedhead
I don't think your wife is your judas, crazyguy. I'm sure she loves you, and may just be trying to get you "back to the flock."
Have you been very direct with her, asking her what she is discussing with the elders? Perhaps you should sit down with your children one on one to gently & respectfully tell them what you know about the org., asking them in the beginning to please listen to you before they shut down, and allow you to finish before they speak. Tell them you will give them the same respect after. Can't hurt to try.
Can you ignore the elder? If he's been a jerk, you owe him nothing. You know you don't have to play by their rules. I hope your wife eventually comes around and sees the light. I know you will come out of this looking like the better person. You have us to talk to whenever you need. I hope your day gets better.
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Just caught my 7 yr old watching 'Calebs Aeroplane' think I overreacted
by not bitter inat least i think thats what its called.
she was watching it at my parents house just now.
i asked what she was watching on my mums tablet and mum said whilst laughing 'oh sorry but she wants to watch bible stories' then all i heard was something about jehovah and keeping rooms tidy.
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ruderedhead
Just apologize. And keep your ears open.
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My sister died
by poppers injust got word that my sister died.
she had surgery for heart valve replacement about 5 weeks ago, and when they opened her up for it they found cancer.
we had an extra special relationship since i was her "birthday present" when she turned 10 in 1951. this is my second sibling to die of cancer in 14 months..
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ruderedhead
Poppers, I'm so sorry for your losses. Mind boggling that with all the money going to cancer research, they can't find a cure!
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Finally decided to introduce myself here
by cookiemaster inhey guys !
i've stopped believing the watchtower crap a few years ago.
i achieved this on my own, despite being raised as one.
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ruderedhead
Welcome!
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My Story
by Brother Mike inmy story is long, heart stopping, tragic, and puzzling.
since i posted what was said to be my last post, i received a private message which sparked my attention about the watchtower.
immediately i did research, and have found not only proof from outside sources, but the watchtower openly admitting it.
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ruderedhead
I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. Welcome back.
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Here we go again..... visitors from London bethel staying with my parents
by not bitter inthey are arriving this evening at around 9:30 so when i went to pick up my daughter from my parents house after work i was ushered out sharpish as my mum is still cleaning the house and preparing.
ironing bedding, re-hanging curtains after getting them dry cleaned etc.
nuts!.
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ruderedhead
It's ridiculous, I know. But you can't change your parents right now, so let it go. Have a fun weekend with your child, and perhaps miss next weekend if your still miffed. It's the freakin weekend, baby you need to have you some FUN!!