Younglove1999

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  Put me on the Awake - I'm an unwed mother now! :)

  by Juniper in

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  2. friends

  ok all....here's my big news!

  little old me, once-upon-a-time a 'need greater', a pioneer, an elder's wife......now i'm 5 weeks pregnant with my boyfriend!

  :) my dear ma and pa have been hiding their heads in the sand and hoping for the last few years that i would go to meetings again.. i certainly hope that they'll be able to be excited about their first 'grandbaby'.

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  Congratulations!!

  We have a 6 month old little girl- She is just so much fun-

  Alot of work yes- but totally worth it
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  We've lost so much.

  by shell69 in

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  2. friends

  guys;.

  i normally come on here, and am strong and very vocal in me distain for the borg and all the things it entailed.

  just feeling a bit sad for myself tonight and wanted to tell my friends.. my birthday was yesterday.

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  Younglove1999

  ((hugs))
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  Public Talk Intro on Youtube, picked apart and pathetic

  by Wasanelder Once in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  someone uploaded a public talk on youtube.

  i don't know which one it is because i quit listening after the introduction.

  i thought it was the perfect example of how negative the whole thing is.

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  Younglove1999

  LOL!

  that was great-
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  Do those of you "born into the truth" have problems with relationships?

  by marmot in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i'm a 4th generation dub and i was the epitome of a goodie-two-shoes elder's son.

  i was taught/brainwashed that dating was evil and only for mature brothers (i distinctly remember a part on the assembly with a "demonstration" that said even 24 years old was too young to date and you should concentrate on becoming a ms or pioneer first) and went through so much soul-destroying guilt because of the society's utterly ridiculous stance on masturbation that it almost drove me to suicide.

  didn't help that my father the elder had a massive porn stash.

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  Younglove1999

  thanks for sharing your experience-

  I did the rebellious thing growing up in "the truth" and dated guys- both worldy and witnesses-

  I think if I didn't do that, i would have ended up marrying the first JW guy I met as soon as I hit the age of 18- and it probably would have been the worst mistake ever.

  But thankfully, from dating I was able to figure out what *I* wanted in a marriage mate and I stuck to my guns. I didn't just marry a guy who was a JW or an MS, but I wanted someone who truly made me feel confident, someone I could laugh with, and an itelligent intellectual person who could made their own decisions and not some "puppet". So I guess sub consciously, I didn't want an MS or a Pioneer! LOL

  But because JW's aren't allowed to date, I think there's that misconstrued idea that the first guy you meet/date/hold hands with has to be the guy you're going to marry. In fact, it's usually how it works 90% of the time. And it's sad to see because most of those marriages end up being train wrecks.

  Even though I'm happily married and we're both out of the organization, I find myself struggling to maintain normal relationships with guys in general because growin up you didn't talk to another guy unless you were interested. Girls and guys couldn't be friends, etc. So basically a guy=flirtation and romantic interest and nothing else growing up. I have a difficult time being around guys today because I'm always thinking "oh! they must be interested in me"-not in a conceited way- but like in a guilty, I better stop talking to them way- not sure if that makes sense-

  but yeah, I definitely think beign a JW can cause problems with relationships with people in general, both romantic and platonic
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  Did You Ever.........

  by The-Borg in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  have any inappropriate and bizarre moments from members of the opposite sex at the kingdom hall?.

  we had this older indian sister in our congregation, she invited me to her house to "try her curry" one evening.

  she gave me the impression other people would be there.

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  Younglove1999

  an elder in my old congregation out in AZ was totally in love with my mom-

  he was married, my mom was married- he somehow convinced my parents to let them study with my brother while my dad was at work and spent 10 minutes 'studying' with my brother and the other 2 hours, talking to my mom-

  he learned sign language (she's deaf), started becoming "the only elder she could talk to" since he knew Sign Language- she never had a thing for him and was pretty naive about the whole thing until one day he came by with picture of her that he took at a congregation camping trip- they were picture ofher on the beach in her bathing suit with comments on the back of them like "laying out in the beach looking beautiful"- purple was her favorite color and he'd write all the publisher's names on their KM's in black, but her name was always in purple-

  this crap went on for quite sometime and when my mom started becoming depressed after my sister ran away, he totally took advantage of her vulnerability and made a move on her- my father got wind of it and punched him in the face when the guy came to visit- yep, he still had the audacity to come to our house every week even when my brother stopped studying- this elder woudl bike the 20 miles to our house if his wife took the car for the day- he was that hellbent on seeing my mom-

  oh yeah, my dad got removed as an MS and nothing happened to this elder-

  One day, he was giving me a ride to the service group ( he used to like to do that to help my mom *rolls eyes* ) and I asked him point blank why he was constantly flirting with my mom and taking pictures of her- he got flustered and lied to me and said I was misconstruing things- I was 14 at the time. I told hiim I wasn't and that *I* was planning to rat him out. He stopped talking to me!

  at any rate, at some point, my mom finally got the balls to put at end to his 'constant concern' for her and told someone else he was making her uncomfortable-

  he left her alone and started going after this other married deaf woman-

  the guy's seedy- he always made ME feel uncomfortable-

  it was a very weird situation-
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  I'm Graduating tonight.....

  by ex-nj-jw in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well actually tomorrow!

  i've finally finished and will now have my master's degree in nursing!!!

  i feel like i've been in school for my entire life, but it was well worth it!.

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  Younglove1999

  That's awesome!

  Congratulations!!!

  You are my hero
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  are you more 'active' now than when you were in?

  by 4digitcode in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  metapsy brought up a good point in one of his/her replies to a post earlier.

  (sorry metapsy,am still new here) .

  i have done more studying on the witnesses now that i'm out than i ever did while i was in!!!

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  Younglove1999

  I have no desire to read the material from the Society.

  Reading their publications was like talking to a lawyer. "ok, I just finished the three pages on the bible's view on XYZ matter, yet I still haven't gotten a straight answer"

  I love how the Young People Ask articles would try to address complex issues like "why do I cut myself" and spend the whole article talking about nothing and not truly offering any sound advice.
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  Did you lead a double life as a JW? Are you leading a double life still?

  by Bumble Bee in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  as a jw, alot of us lead double lives.

  i know i did.. in talking about our situations with my sister in law, realized that i now lead a double life as a "fader"!!!

  my husband and i are "out" of the religion (my brother, sister in law and the kids too) but for the sake of family, they think we are still "in" although they know we are not active.

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  I'm still leading one that's for sure.

  Until I'm able to tell anybody, including my JW "friends", how I truly feel about the Org. if asked, instead of the whole "well, we don't know what we're doing-so much is going on right now-" excuse, I consider myself leading a double life. I know at some point, I'll be ready to deal with the hell that I'll raise from being honest with everyone, because I'm stubborn and can't let people think the reason I stopped going to meetings was due to depression or discouragement. But right now, I'm not ready to deal with that garbage, so I just act confused and unmotivated.
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  not scared anymore

  by 4digitcode in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i posted my pic.

  (well part of it at least (am a bit shy still...) because i am not scared to be found out anymore.

  mind you i've been df'ed for nearly a year now but still had hope 'friends' would remember we were like family and realize they couldn't possibly live the rest of their lives without talking to me again....ha!

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  Younglove1999

  Hi!

  I was actually thinking about you earlier today-wondering what your story was :)

  Hope to hear it soon
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  Interesting-Account Servant uses his own $ to pay bills

  by Younglove1999 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  about a month ago we were invited to an old friend from our old congregation to attend a bonfire.

  this was before we finally started telling people were weren't going to meetings.

  at any rate, my husband was talking to the guy who took over the accounts when my husband left and he was saying that donations have dwindled significantly.

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  Younglove1999

  LOL about the bonfire thing-

  I guess I used the wrong word? basically someone has one of those outdoor fire pits- she always called it a bonfire-

  or perhaps, I've been out of the Org too long already and i've started using "wordly" words-