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Loose Conduct
by Hangin_on in
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my friend has been married 25 years.

he works with another jw.

they kissed and he touched her nipples but did not have sex with her.
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Blackballed by the Elders
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maybe it's just by one of the elders..... he told someone not to help me out because i did not heed council (almost 2 yrs ago i was counciled).

and maybe i would take advantage of them because he doesn't know my "status" i was thinking about returning evil for evil..... what if i got a disfellowshipping form, filled it out with his info and sent it to the branch.... you think that would work?.
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I just want a "normal" family
by Hangin_on in
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i have a mother in law that doesn't like me because i'm not an elder and i don't study enough.... i think worldly people have bigger problems in their marriage!

did you ever just want a "normal" family?

i don't have to celebrate christmas, but i just want people that care about and accept me for who i am!
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Judicial Matters and the "Repentance Scale"
by Hangin_on in
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an elder once said that a key thing they are trying to determine in a judicial committee is if the offender's "repentance level" matches the seriousness of their sin.

for example if they committed fornication that is a serious sin (an 8 or 9).

they want to see the offender showing a repentance level of 8 or 9.
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Elders "BEND" the scriptures
by Hangin_on in
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did you ever notice that elders tend to "bend" the scriptures when counciling you.... to fit their view of you or of the situation?.

i wonder what goes on before hand.. if they are going to council someone over a certain matter... do they talk between themselves and decide from what angle they will approach the subject at hand?.

they complain about false religion taking the bible and making it fit what they want to do in their lives, but i feel that they do the same when they feel a certain way about you or a matter they are counciling you for.. .
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Questioned By The Elders. Lawsuit?
by Hangin_on in
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i was dfed for 3 years and could not get back in for the life of me.

(long story one elder from my committee even held onto my letter and didnt give it to the other elders for 6 weeks) my current wife who i was dfed for back in the day (a few years ago) found out that i was text messaging and calling one of her friends (another sister in the hall) and she is very upset.

instead of handling it like a family she "eldered up" and i got pulled into the back room with 2 elders.
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New Light.... Does a new questions from readers Trump and old one????
by Hangin_on in
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how does all of this work.

i read a 74 watchtower that says you can talk to your dfed relatives and its your decision.

yet i hear that the current understanding is you cannot.. can i bring up an old article to my mother about talking to me or does a new one trump the old??
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My Pioneer mother wants me (DFed) to fix her computer... HA!!!
by Hangin_on in
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when i call my mother she says she can't talk to me because i am dfed.. i asked her to help me and my pregnant wife move and she said "i don't think i can do that"... whos not allowing her to do it?.

she always calls me if her car or her computer breaks.. she called me today because her computer broke.

so.... i turned the tables on her.
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Letter that my DFed wife received from her Pioneer Mother
by Hangin_on in
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we have been dfed for almost 3.5yrs and have been trying to get back in for 2 yrs and we are getting the runaround.. anyway..... here is the letter my pregnant wife received from her elderess pioneer mother.. .

dear mary,.

i am writing to ask you please do not try to talk to me until you are reinstated.
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Pseudo Thanksgiving - Everyone doesn't have to work....Lets cook a turkey!
by Hangin_on in
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how many people or their families, friends etc.

would have a turkey on or around thanks-giving and say they weren't celebrating they were just having dinner.. my mother and her friends would get a free turkey around tg time and they would cook it on thanks giving because everyone was home from work.. its not celebrating... its just turkey!!!.

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