This is part and parcel of the type of mental manipulation JWs engage in. They never take any responsibility for their actions, instead expecting even demanding that everyone else bow to their every whim since there's no possible way that they can be wrong.
You have told anyone that will listen how we don?t have a relationship with you because you chose to leave a religion. You make it sound so simple. Your statements have made an impact on our worldly relatives. Some have now taken the steps to no longer communicate with us and call us bad Christians.
Turnabout is certainly fair play I would say. The very thing they are doing to her they now want to bitch about when it interferes with the relationships with "worldly family" they enjoy. Talk about wanting to have your cake and eat it too.
They won?t even listen to our side so we can tell them the whole story.
What "side" do they want to tell.....that they're being judgemental and shunning but don't feel that their actions should require them to be judged and shunned because they're choosing to cling to an often wrong organization masquerading as Jah?
I think it was very selfish on your part not to be up front with us and tell us that you did not want to be a witness anymore..................I know you said that we would not have left you in peace and we would not have respected your decision but I don?t think that would have been the case.
That is exactly the case....and she knows it. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. She's an even better liar than she accuses her daughter to be. Matters not if she's sitting in front of "elders"....only JWs feel like they're obligated to tell them everything about their lives.
I remember you telling us that you did not want to discuss religion and that we could talk about anything but that. You told us this in our own home. You know that our life revolves around Jehovah and his organization. So to cut to the chase you told us that if we wanted to be in your company we could not discuss Jehovah with you or ask you questions about your worldly life. Do you know how much you were asking of us when you demanded that? Again you were only thinking of yourself.
Another instance of the pot calling the kettle black. Agreeing to disagree seems not to be an option for this selfish mother..........you should just listen to their veiled condemnation as long as it suits them, let them beat your self -esteem to a pulp under threat of death and destruction until you surrender yourself, "come back" to the organization, and live your life as they would have you live it.
Then that inevitable day came that we find out you were pregnant and then you getting disfellowshipped. You were as defiant as ever.
And if she's with a man who loves her, or not for that matter, why not be defiant rather than crushed under the thumb of WT psychobable. What the mother see's this is as a perfect time for kick her around at her weakest moment, and when the situation didn't materialise to her satisfaction, she reverts back to heaping on the guilt.
I am very grateful that you allow us contact with your daughter but you have those conditions attached. Again you ask us not to share our beliefs with our grandchild.
As the PARENT should attache conditions to anyone they allow the see THEIR child!!! Here is where the mother, in true JW fashion, attempts to supercede the authority of the parent even to the point of implying that her beliefs to be superior to that of the parent with the belief that she has every right to do so.
This letter reeks of the guilt ridden baggabe JWs are known for in their attempts to inflict as much pain as possible to get peoploe back to meetings.
