I've sough counseling when I couldn't get past certain points in my life. My first and biggest was finally acknowledging and submitting myself to AA because there was no way I could "kick" my addicition to alcohol by myself.
A couple of years into sobriety I began to realized that I was grieving many, many losses: alcohol, friends, parents and family, lifestyle, etc. So I sought out therapy. One of this therapists "things" was to blame and attack my parents and their cult for all the bad things, including my alcoholism, that happened to me. I know for fact, then and now, that this simply is not true. Besides, alcoholism is a physiological inability to process alcohol normally, as diabetes is the body's inability to process sugar normally. And both are usually genetic.
The first therapist made me feel so horrible every time I saw her (2x per week over 6 weeks) that I finally told her that this was NOT why I was in therapy, I didn't like her attitudes and methods, and I would be leaving. Her response was that I was a really, really sick person and had been physically and mentally abused all my life and I would never amount to anything without life-long therapy. She was one of the bad ones.
I've since experienced very good solution-oriented therapists and doctors who do not believe in this life-long crap.
As Prophecor (please reduce the size of your font, it looks like you are yelling with enphasis...) I don't think people as a whole are capable of getting through certain areas and complications of life without "outside" trained help. However, as with my experience, ya gotta be careful who you work with. Some of these guys have their own control and mental health issues.
Another side to therapy is applying what you have learned... practice.
One of the exciting things I found when I started recovering (from alcoholism, JWism, life) was that I got to try on new Brenda's. Ok I like that behavious, I'll keep it. No, I don't like the results of that one, I need to modify it a bit. Funny thing was, I found myself back to my teenaged self without all of the musts and shoulds and if you don't He's gonna getcha mind-control crap.
I like what Bradshaw said (the guy who did the books and lecture circuit/series on the disfunctional family) about self-help books. "You can read all the self-help books you want, but if you don't apply it, they're no good". He likened it to two doors:.."one door is for Heaven, and the other door is Lecture to Heaven. All the self-help book buyers/readers are lined up behind the Lecture to Heaven because they're afraid of the real thing"..(paraphrased).
This board is excellent group therapy. Here, like AA, we get to see what others have gone through. What they've done about it. Etc. How they handle things. And even though I've been out for 25+ years, I have gained some real resolution, understanding, and enacted theraputic change because of this wonderful group of (really, really sick, gonna need therapy the rest of your life) people.
Hugs and much gratitude and respect to ya'll
Bren