Prophecor I loved your last post. Yes life moves too fast and it causes a great deal of stress for all of us. When u are very young the effects for stress may not be so noticeable, but after 30, it shows up as disease and mental illness.
Right now, I have a small christmas tree, my first, in a small bedroom. No one can see it unless they go in. I am so afraid a jws will see it. I only have 2 JWS that ever stop by anymore, but it would be my luck they would see it. I told my therapist this, and he alost cried. He almost cannot believe people would have this much power over others life, ie they could DF us for having it .But thanks to him, I have this treee. He convinced my husband that it was grossly unfair of him not to help me meet my spiritual needs. He also said I should be willing to help my husband meet his. My hubby is like me, a fader. but he still clings to some of the teachings, and his family is still "IN" and it would hurt him badly if they df us. so I have to be respectful of him too. But do u know, HE went out and bought the tree. THANKS TO MY THERAPIST. This is stressing me, but it is a huge breakthrough for my husband. Also, he convinced my hubby to attend a christmas service with me.
I still have all those negative "tapes" floating around my head from the elders /parents and others JWS. They have done everything they could to hurt me and my family. I wish i did not hate them, but i do. By hating I am giving them some of my power. I hope to get to the point where Gary B is at, firm and resolved to beat them at their own game, but I don't sense a bitter hatred , at least not one that is destroying his life. to the contrary, his life sounds really good.
Anyway, just wanted to tell u that your insights are great and also suggest that u check into the county mental health system. They have therapists that will see u for a sliding fee or for almost nothing.
best of luck ot u
weds