B*st*rd, F*cking B*st*rds!!!!!

by LittleToe 131 Replies latest members adult

  • LittleToe

    I'm not a good person to be around right now.

    I rarely get angry, but I've just lost the lid...

    I had my sister on the phone, in tears, because my parents broke the news that they aren't going to her wedding in two months time.
    Up until yesterday they were, in fact she phoned me before they arrived, all happy.
    After 24 hours of tears she was finally in a reasonable enough state to call me.
    After a couple of sentences she had to hand me over to her fiance.

    I then called my dad to hear his side of the story and give him a mouthful.
    It boils donw to what "they" would lose, by way of how they are viewed in the congregation, rather than showing love to their only daughter.

    If it weren't for the fact that I believe in being a better person than that, I'd shun them.

    At least I got to hammer out a few scriptures and home-truths about the borg, in the midst of my tirade.

    I have NEVER been so furious in ALL my life (and that's saying something).
    What should be the happiest day of my sisters life, and one which most of the plans revolved around compromise with my parents, has now turned to ashes.

  • LittleToe

    I should add that it this "crisis of conscience" was brought on by my brother (the one who disowned me when I DA'ed, and has subsequently become and Elder), phoning Bethel, ehen he received the Wedding invitation.

    They stated that since she was DF'ed he shouldn't attend. He passed on the good tidings, leading to my parents reversal of decision.

    My mother is in tears (but then, she made her own decision, and self-admittedly must bear the consequences), and didn't come to the phone.

    They should probably be glad that they moved hundreds of miles away. If they were nearer I'd be hammering down the door.

  • LittleToe

    Sorry about bringing this here. I don't normally delve into the "hard things" in my life, in such a public fashion. But no-one else could possibly understand the depth of rage that I feel.

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  • seven006


    I am sorry. I know how we get more angry when the watchtower hurts someone we love more than it does when they do it directly to us. The best you can do is be there for your sister. I have dealt with WT crap for a long time but when it effects my sister I blow up.

    Your a good brother. I hope you are the one who gets to walk her down the isle.

    Take care man, and be thankful she is not marring a JW.


  • jgnat

    Ummmm, it is probably a little too early to give this advice, but....

    For the sanity of your sister, I think she and her fiancee should reorganize the wedding entirely on THEIR wishes. Enough of bending backwards to please an impersonal organization. Try and step in and help with the planning. Practice living free.

    And if kicking a door is more your style right now, do that. Then re-read my advice in 48 hours or so.

  • Robdar


    Since my parents wouldn't come to my wedding, I can and do relate to how your sister is feeling. I can and do understand your anger too. You have every right in the world to be upset.

    I am sending prayer your way.

    Much love to you.


  • LittleToe

    Thanks Bradley, Dave, now I'm crying like a baby. It's going to be strange standing where my dad should be standing, knowing that he isn't because he wont.

    Jgnat: All the plans are made - they get married on Friday 19th March - and the invites are already starting to come back.

    Thanks Robyn.

  • talesin

    I know how you feel.

    My nephew got married last week - they didn't even tell me. I haven't been allowed to SEE them - they are 27 and 22 - I met them both once. And it goes on and on. Funny thing is, they always want me to come to the FUNERALS.

    they ARE B*st*rds, you're right. And like you, I don't share a lot of my personal business here, but occasionally it helps to let it all out.

    I'm sorry you and your sister have to be hurt this way. You have a right to be angry. What more can I say?

    take care,


  • Stephanus

    It never ceases to amaze me as to how low these bastards can sink!

    There is one small positive outcome, if you can even call it that, to this: all those compromises made for your parents' sake can now be dropped, and your sister and her fiance can have the wedding ceremony/reception they originally planned on having.

    Personally, if I were you Littletoe, I'd stop using the word "parents" to describe them; people who have to ask someone else to provide them with moral guidance, the way you rparents did, are little more than children themselves. They've taken their ball and gone home now, so it's up to you and your sister's REAL family (the ones who support her and stick by her) to salvage what's left of the situation. I hope it all turns out well!

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