Narcissists only see peoples value in terms of what they can be of service to the narcissist.
lloyd cultivates his ‘doting father’ and ‘family man’ image because it serves him. When the girls are grown up, or when the girls are speaking Croatian to their mum and he doesn’t know what they are saying, they are not of service to him and he will abandon them emotionally and / or physically.
in many respects he’s lucky he had girls, they are more malleable. A son would begin to butt up against him when the boy got testosterone, challenge him, defend his mum. It would lead to terrible fireworks. It’s happening with my boy right now, a very gentle but moral soul who told his dad he was a ‘bloody idiot’ (when he was 11) for shouting at me.
lloyd can control a feminised household for now.