Thanks for your post - I know how much I'd pay for this in Real Life You, Larc, and some others have helped many of us here to see therapists/Ph.D's as people with specialized learning and perspectives......not necessarily as just $150-$250 per 50 min. A fine gift your giving.
I don't know if I could participate in a group mpd/did thing. In spite of the amount of my posts.....quite private. And (no offense) some of those DID are wacked - which includes/included me at different times. Of course, I don't come off *mentally healthy* when triggered either.
I think we all grow up with the illusion of normal. Father, mother, home, etc. In other words - what we perceive as average. When abused, the kid on some level might suspect his family isn't like the Jones next door - and the yearning begins. I know I tended to tag onto women, just wanting their friendliness. Thankfully, my mom didn't fight me on this - I think she thought I was out of her way. But it helped me a lot.
Even though we have to be politically correct with children now - it would be a gift to remember that the kid who just wants to visit with you (bring you small gifts/flowers) might have a really crappy life at home and is reaching out - just yearning for what they, on some level, know they don't have.
I think your review of kids as being naturally multiple makes a lot of sense. I remember my daughter going through stages (like daily) where she'd *try on* being intelligent, girl silly, sexy, boylike, - drove me nuts. She was an abuse victim, so maybe hers was a bit more obvious than other kids.
Nonetheless, it does make sense. I've also read the theory about the incredible imagination of some kids - their invisable friends, their ability to have strong relationships with them.....and how they outgrow them. Another gift?