Glad to help keep this thread up and going - it's well worth while.
The site Wounded Heart gave is a great one for learning, another site is:
Sexual Abuse/Child Abuse Among Jehovah's Witnesses - by Randy Watters http://www.exjws.net/sexabuse/index.htm
I've searched through my papers, can't find the address for Sidran Foundation - but I think there's a link to it from the above site. They have all kinds of books on abuse, from children's to therpist level.
There is also a journal I used to subscribe to - but can't find my back copies now called Many Voices It's written for mpd/did persons, and done well. I'll keep looking for my copies.
As for lost good memories along with bad ones - yeah, I asked physchiatrist about that too. He says no one knows exactly why that happens. Doesn't seem fair though, does it? I have a girlfriend from grade school who I remember a little about. But we were best friends for years - and she has all kinds of stories about us, too bad I don't have knowledge of them. She's a nurse, and still found it remarkable that I don't remember much about those years. Even in high school, I didn't have those memories - she came to visit me and would call regularily. I didn't understand why she kept calling me because to my knowledge, we hadn't been that close as kids.
Now I understand why she was hurt when I didn't have the friendship she had. We both lost a friendship of value. I just didn't have the memories.
If this thread is still going - I'll tell you a killer funny no-memory episode with the guy I dated for two years.
Hope you're ok? Chat back if you like? Even in our peculiar circumstances, there are oddly funny moments. I've only got one instance - but it is very peculiarly funny. Promise to put it up - but would like you to chuckle too. I even made my therapist (not jw one) laugh with this one.