I have just read this thread and whoa...so many different viewpoints, and valid ones at that. I
have to say that there has been something that I agreed with in every single reply in this thread:
some more than others.
To our new friend, I just want to say this: I've been a single mother, with very poor health
and only a high school education and two community college typing classes to get by on. I worked
nights, in a 24 hour grocery store as a cashier so that I could support myself and my baby. I
worked with many, many single mothers there, most of them worked more than one job to
take care of their children. To my knowledge (and I knew these gals pretty well) none of them
had to resort to the skin trade (dancing, prostitution, drug selling, et.al) to survive.
They were getting foodstamps and other help from the state. I know what waiting said is true
and there are many homeless people because the government doesn't take care of everyone.
But if you are selling yourself, you need to realize the very real danger you're in. I don't have
to tell you I'm sure about the risks of this profession.
In times past I would have thrown my arms around you without restraint and believed every
word of your story. I've learned to take more of a wait and see approach. If you are really
as desperate as you write, then my heart goes out to you and your children. I certainly do not
judge you, as a parent I can understand your dilemma.
You did get off on the wrong foot with your classifying folks right off the bat. Back off on that
if you are really here for the very real support this group can offer. I think very highly of
many of those that you've been sniping at and it's not a good way to make friends. You can't
know all there is to know about me, or anyone else here just from what we post. We all have
to withhold some information, especially if we're afraid of losing our anonymity.
If your seriously considering suicide, get help now. Your children will not be better off without you.
Call the local crisis hotline, they're usually listed in the phone book and are toll free in most areas.
You can call from a payphone if you have to.
More I'd like to say but I have got to dash off for now, company coming. I hope that things
will improve for you and your children. Please don't forget them in this when you're thinking
about how hard things are on you: it's harder on them.
p.s. My troll alarm is ringing off the wall too, guys. If you are indeed just trying to stir
folks up...you really need to get a new hobby.
The Four Agreements:
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don't Take Anything Personally
Don't Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best