Thanks,this sounds like it might be useful for my boyfriend to read,if he want's,& find out more information.He knows at the end of the day he will have to make his own decision about what he wants to do.
Funky, if he was sincerely interested in finding out the truth about his religion, that information might be helpful, it's true. But his comments here lead me to believe that he is not sincere at all, about you or his religion. He does not have the humble, contrite expressions that one would normally expect from someone who had damaged an important relationship through dishonesty and is now sincerely striving to repair it. Instead, he defends his actions and beliefs, acting as if this was all something that just "happened" to him, not something he brought upon himself. When people here try to point out the flaws in his religious organization, he becomes arrogant and defensive, and demands to know their religious affiliations so he can pigeonhole and dismiss their comments on that basis.
Fact: He deceived you for months about his being a JW.
Fact: He deceived his family and friends for months about you. He also deceived his congregation. Relationships with worldly people are strongly frowned upon, and if it had become known that he was dating a worldly girl, the elders would have been at his door in a heartbeat.
Fact: He has, in the eyes of his religious group, committed serious immorality with you. If this became known, he would, as others have pointed out, be disfellowshipped and shunned. Therefore, we must conclude that he is even now deceiving his friends, family and congregation about his actions.
Do you really want a relationship with a liar?
As many here have said, we have seen this a hundred times. He may feel as though he loves you now. But at some point, maybe after the flush of new romance has paled a bit, he will feel guilty about committing immorality with you. He will confess to the elders, and one of their requirements for him not to be disfellowshipped will be that he never have anything to do with you again. He will dump you as instructed, and find some virginal young JW girl to marry eventually. You will be known as that worldly slut that he got in trouble with. All fault will be ascribed to you and none to him.
Let's take it a step further, and assume that he actually walks away from the JW's to be with you. Again, time will go by, and at some point, he will decide to go back. This is inevitable, unless he somehow breaks free of the Watchtower's mind control. I don't see him doing that right now; he is too defensive, and is not, in my opinion, capable of the self-honesty needed to break free mentally. So, even if he does leave, he will eventually go back. If you don't become a JW too, he will resent you, and your lives will be miserable. If you do become a JW, you'll be miserable, too, because you have learned enough here to know that it isn't the truth. So you will be knowingly devoting your life to a lie. Trust me, I've been there. It's a horrible way to live.
In short, I don't see any possibility at all for a positive outcome to this relationship. This guy is a proven liar, and I firmly believe that his profession of love for you is phony. He's just using you for what he can get. After he's had his fun, he'll "repent" before his elders, and continue his merry JW life without you. I strongly suggest you spare yourself a lot of heartache, and dump him now.
