brokenheartedidiot, I have a feeling you are not going to get the sympathy you are looking for in this forum. While you protest that we don't know the specifics of your situation, enough information has been posted here for many of us to recognize situations we have seen over and over again. As LB pointed out, you are far from the first young JW man to desire"forbidden fruit".
While your screen name implies that you have some degree of sorrow over your actions, I must note that there is no note of contrition in your comments here thus far. And there should be. You were far less than honest with this girl for quite some time, if her remarks are accurate. You say that you "don't have a double life", but the fact that you may have "come clean" now does not excuse your earlier actions. As I pointed out previously in this thread, she ought to be asking herself whether she can really trust you. If you really want her as anything other than a plaything, then you ought to show some genuine sorrow over the fact that you deceived her.
Remember as you post here that this is an open forum, and the majority of those who post here are persons who have left the organization. Many of us have been hurt by the organization and its unscriptural policies, and are here to get some measure of healing and closure. You say that you cannot ignore the "hallmarks of true religion," but many of us here find that statement ludicrous as applied to the Watchtower. The only criteria for true religion that are fulfilled by the Watchtower are the ones that they themselves set. The scriptural criteria found in the Bible disqualifies them completely as being the true religion. For example, they refer to their prophetic errors as "mistakes," yet these teachings (particularly the one about the 1914 generation) were presented as "the Creator's promise" and "Jehovah's prophetic word." Predictions made in the name of the Creator, which fail to come true, are not "mistakes," they are false prophecies, and the one advancing them is a false prophet. Likewise, the Society's more recent actions with regard to the UN issue and the current pedophile scandal would preclude its representing the God of the Bible in any way, or being the true religion.
You say that you are an avid Bible reader, and I know that some JW's are (certainly not all). But JW's read the Bible through Watchtower-colored glasses. For example, what do you do if you read a passage in the Bible that you do not understand? If you are like most JW's, you go to the Society's indexes to look up the meaning. But in doing so, you filter all scripture through Watchtower teachings. The Bible is the word of God, not the Watchtower. If you were to start reading the Bible alone, you would quickly find that its message is very different from what the Watchtower teaches. For example, JW's speak of themselves as being "in the truth," meaning 'in the JW organization.' But the Bible teaches differently. John 14:6 tells us that the Truth is not a set of doctrines, or an organization, but a person, Jesus Christ. That's only one small example. There are hundreds.
So, why have I told you all this negative stuff about the JW organization, when your concern here is your relationship with Funkydiva? Because in this might lie the key to your actually having a successful relationship with her. You feel that you must choose between Jehovah and her, but this is not the case. If you honestly examine your religion (as many Watchtower publications urge people to do), you will find that it cannot be what it claims to be. And if that is truly the case, you will only be giving up a relationship with a man-made organization, not with God Himself. Nowhere in the Bible does God require membership in an organization to have a relationship with Him. What He requires is faith in his Son.
If you really do love Funkydiva, you should at least honestly consider and investigate the possibility that she is right and you are wrong about the JW organization. If you don't have enough respect for her opinion to do so, then that should be yet another "red flag" for her.