by confusedandalone 85 Replies latest jw experiences
I feel for you but at least you got your wife and kids on your side. Enjoy life.
We all went thru similar situation,in my case, turned in by my ex wife and father in law but i felt i screwed them by denying everything
and eventually walked away from the cult.
DID IT MY WAY !!!!
Once it was clear that they were not going to leave us alone and were forming a JC I made it clear that we were not going to attend. When they called me to deliver their verdict I refused to talk to them. When they delivered the letters in the night to our address I threw them in the bin unopened. Once I decided they were not going to have any power in my life I cut them out of it and refused to play their games.
Well, I went to my kingdom hall to deliver the letter at around 1:00. I found out that the brothers sent info regarding my situation to the society. My brother was instrumental in this and so was my father. Because I have an enclosed property they said they had no access to me and they had no way of contacting me... which is a lie because no one ever asked me to a judicial committee.
I decided I will not be disfellowshipped by these losers so I would deliver my letter of DA. I drove to the kingdom hall to find the door locked. I left the letter in the mailbox and left. A very anti-climactic ending yet it is also a cery soothing feeling to know that this is over. The letter is about 6 pages long detailing many of the false teachings as well as the many reasons it is obvious that this organization is not chosen by god in any way shape or form.
I also sent the letter out as an email to a number of friends of mine to let them know why I was leaving. My new life starts today.. my Watchtower free life. I feel very liberated at this moment and I have no regrets. My phone is ringing off the hook and after I finish my next drink I will start answering calls and letting those who truly know me and love me understand why I can no longer profess that faith.
Congrats and welcome to your newly unburdened life!
Hey CAA,
Thank you for sharing your story here. The ups and downs and all of that. Hey if you get a sec, we would love to read your letter. 6 pages or not, its like "apostate porn" for us to be able to see someone tell them to stick it when some of us cannot yet do so.
One good thing that comes from this all getting out and overwith, is that you can tell people what you really think. Try to be as kind as possible, so that hopefully one day they see that the organization is the real apostate here.
I also wonder, while your wife is inactive, is she also going to DA? Won't that still have people coming by or calling? She sounds like she knows how to tell people to get lost.
Congrats on making your freedom official! Thanks for sharing your interesting stories, and I'm sorry to hear about how some of your family members have treated you.
BU2B - What woke my wife up was the POSTER TERRY... She admitted to me that going back a number of years she wanted out but never said so. However when I told her I was finished she kept going thinking that for some reason she had to continue... However I directed her to this site and she kept performing searches for Terry's articles... unlik eme she is a college graduate and she is entranced by people who do quality research and write excellent articles.
She still has printouts of some of his threads that she ahs sent to inactive friends of hers in hopes that they leave. I am forever grateful to this guy for posting those articles that he put up.
In regards to the JW employee, all I can say is I don't want to OUT anyone but she will be working with us for a long time. I am sure of it!
Funny enough I let all of our JW workers know... not a single one of them has said it will be a problem. Out of 13 JW workers 11 have responded favorably with the proverbial , "I don't really care". Still waiting for 2 others to respond.
In my letter I told the elders that if anyone attempts to contact my family there WILL be legal action. I mean that, serious as a heart attack. The funniest part of all of this is the sense of peace... For me fading was not an option... I do not want to look over my shoulder the rest of my life wondering if something I am doing will bring up a problem. I don't want to explain to family and friends why I am not at the meetings. With this process I can move on and enjoy every aspect of life. I also have recieved 3 messages fromco-workers asking me exactly what is it that made me leave. I am sure I will be able to help more than a few see why this organization sucks monkey ballz
Congrats C&A, as in the end, you exited from the Borg on YOUR own terms, and that's what really matters to gaining a sense of personal empowerment from the exit. There's no price worth selling one's personal integrity for, as that's all you've got!
Like others have said, hope springs eternal that others may come to the right conclusion on their own steam and at their own pace, but ultimately everyone needs to make that decision for themselves (and no one can do it for them).
Adam
Dude, in the end, all Jesus had was family.
All I can say is wow, what a hot mess this has turned into. Tell them off, brother.
