I feel for them. It's like we were all locked up in a cage, I finally found a way out, and I want to help them leave the cage, but they just don't want to.
It's feelings like that where I got one of my avatars from........"Whitebird in a golden cage...........whitebird must fly or she will die"
I recently lost my JW father. I flew home to see him because he was dying and I was never allowed near him...........I know the hurt and frustration. You handled things so well..........I don't think you could have said anything better.
One thing that always stands out to me in conversations we have with our JW relatives is that they always fall back on the Jehovah card (which is really the Watchtower and the governing body, but whatever) The comment your mom made here was so telling:
Mom: True, but you still don’t believe the same way we do and if we spend time with you our faith can subtle begin to wither by you saying things inadvertently that is different to our perspective on matters. We simply don’t know you anymore. You’re a different person.
She's confusing faith with loyalty. Real faith can't be shaken by 'inadvertent comments' you might make. This is a loyalty issue and the society has interwoven the trademark name of the ancient Semitic god Jehovah with loyalty to the governing body so masterfully that the rank and file witness cannot distinguish loyalty to a manmade organization from faith in god.
Also, you are obviously NOT a different person just judging from the contents of the discussion you had. You simply do not believe in their religion.
That is another part of the WT control.......trying to divorce themselves from the word religion. They get TAX EXEMPTION for being a religion!
Dictionary meaning: (My additions added in color)
RELIGION Noun | ||
Anyway, my heart goes out to you. You did all you could do.