Ziddina- "I'd knock that fluffy-bunny-rainbow-unicorn stuff right outta you!!!" - Oh yeah Z- I’d like to see you try!!! That's the first and last time I've been described that way!!! Z, Was that your attempt to insult me? LOL!!! I'd just hug you til you begged me to stop, Z
Z said-"Effective critical thinking will analyse situations with the intent of determining whether the situation will be beneficial or detrimental to one's happiness and ability to thrive - well, heck, I might as well say, ability to survive." ----------------------------------------------------------------------------
I don’t disagree with your reasoning. I’m not speaking of unconditional love as supporting wrong behaviours or actions .Like Still thinking pointed out- she did not approve the alcoholism of her partner and made a hard decision to not allow his alcoholism to determine the rest of her life. She still loved him and would continue to do so, but she chose to love herself first!!! She is an example of how her critical thinking helped her out of a bad situation while her ability to give unconditional love was active.---------------------------------------------------------------------------
Z said-"Unconditional love" can be manipulated by others into something that benefits THEM but is detrimental to the one giving out the "unconditional love"... -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
What you are speaking of is when one loves unconditionally and the other does not. Yes, Z, that can happen. There are selfish and manipulative people that do that. That is the reality of life. But can unconditional love exist in an imperfect world? My experience has been- Yes!!!
As far as co-dependency- I don’t consider the time I spent taking care of the most precious person in my life as anything but a positive experience. It caused me to grow as a person and to recognize what is important in life. It was actually the process that helped me to wake up from the WT world. There’s a big difference between real true love that I knew in comparison with the kind of love that the society speaks about but never puts into practice. When there is obligation without love, there is a marked difference. There's no real feeling of love attached to it. Only resentment . And then there is the love that is whole- hearted despite sadness and tears. I was Lucky that I had a mother that loved me. Although, imperfectly. We both grew up at the same time. And we realized what was important before it was too late.------------------------------
Still thinking and Free flying fareie- you have both expressed so eloquently my own feelings about the matter- better than I could.
00Dad- thanks!!! It was your post that got this started. I hope this discussion continues and evolves.
Edited- Bc quotes from Z were bold- ? is everything bold again?????)