Good morning, all, and peace to you! Lots to respond to, I see, so...
I do think that I recall reading that many pedophiles (It MAY have just been actual molesters, but i do not know for sure) as well as rapists have a very hard if not impossible time understanding how much they hurt their victims.
Many, yes, dear CE (peace to you!), but many is not all, right? So, what of those who DO understand? I mean, are we to assume that NONE of those who do "wrong"... in whatever manner... feel remorse/regret... may not have committed the wrong if they had received some help, if someone had listened to their cry for it, much earlier on?
They lack that ability, the compassion and guilt.
And these are most likely the ones who actually molest. Which is not who I am speaking of.
I wonder how long it will be before we reach this state of affairs with pedophilia and wiether the original article is a tentative step along this awfull road for there are indeed people in power that suffer this perversion and would surely like it to become more prevalent.
Okaaaaayyy, dear Nambo (peace to you, as well!)??? I find it interesting that some apparently think that all pedophiles are "lowlifes" in our society... or even adult. Trust me, there are WAY more pedophiles out there that any of us can even imagine. Pedophilia is an accepted practice in MANY cultures, along with incest. It's only hidden in some culture(s). Those cultures may think they're going to eradicate it, but I would wager that it will either go the way of homosexuality (i.e., come out into the open and eventually be accepted, depending on who's in power), or slavery (underground but even more pervasive that previously). Rather than putting our heads [back] in the sand, though ("Ewwwwww, yet another perversion WE have to deal with! Why not just kill 'em all... or send them to some island??")... perhaps "we" should consider early intervention... and prevention where possible.
What about pedophiles who are "attracted" to very young children, even babies? Is that really an "attraction"? Or just perverse evil?
Do we KNOW, dear Truth (peace to you, too!)? I mean, do we know which one's tendency is the result of which? How? And regardless of which, if we can do something that might prevent even ONE molestation... shouldn't we? Or should we just write all these folks off... and wait until they act on their desires (to the detriment of some child!)... and THEN act (which is usually only some kind of temporary criminal penalty, so what of them when they've served their "sentence"?)
I understand the wanting to figure out the "hardwiring" but you must accept that some people exercise their free will choice to do things of this detestable nature.
And again, neither the author nor I was speaking as to those who DO molest... but help for those who fight to urge to KEEP fighting.
Children of the same age exploring their bodies is not considered pedophilia - if you chose to educate yourself about the topic BEFORE commenting on it, you would be aware of that.
And you assume those are the children I was speaking of, dear Tal (peace to you!). Why? (And why do you keep "insinuating" inaccurate understanding and motives into my comments? What is UP with you with that, lately??). But just so you know (and I shouldn't HAVE to state this publicly to you to get YOU to "see", but since your sensitivities seem to be on such "high alert" lately, I will)... MY "education" about the topic is based on MY own molestation, at ages 3-4, by a boy who was 10-11 at the time. Which boy grew up to "like" young girls (the younger, the better: 2-3 was his preference). No one listened to my 3-year-old "dribble" when I tried to tell the parents (who were often too involved in drinking and playing cards to pay any attention when I tried). Besides, we were just "playing doctor," right? But who knows, perhaps that little boy needed help with an already present tendency, which could have saved some other little girls? Oh, and he also molested his two younger sisters... for years.
I also base it on a family member who was subjected to abuse by an older sibling for 10 years... which abuse started when he was 5 and the sibling was 7. That same sibling went on to rape another sibling when he was a teenager and she a pre-teen. Indeed, many, many... many... child molestations are at the hands of other CHILDREN, and a lot of those "children" are teenagers. So, come on down off your high horse, dear, please.
What about a 14 y/o pedophile? Do you have any sympathy for a 14 y/o pedophile? Or 15?
Exactly, dear Six (peace to you, luv!): exactly when does it start? What, a man/woman wakes up one day, a full grown adult, and THEN goes, "Oh, hey, wait... I think I like kids, now!"? Or is it that now they have more power... and greater ability... to carry out their desires on weaker ones... because now they have their own homes, cars, etc., in which to DO it? No more need to hide it like they had to in Mommy/Daddy's house?
Most of us consider pedophiles to be adults, however, you bring up an interesting point - if a 14 yr old is a pedophile, then perhaps there is time to correct the behavior while they are still adolescents,
(Shaking head, no) - I really do believe it starts MUCH earlier than that, dear Truth. But, again, there's that whole "playing doctor" thing: how do you tell the difference between children "exploring" (eyeroll)... and one child actually molesting another? When the other one doesn't like it? WHat if they do? What if they don't know that they shouldn't like it? Because isn't that a claim of many who were molested - they didn't KNOW it was "bad" at the time? I certainly didn't (and I never suffered about it because when I DID realize it was bad, when I was about 7 and recalled it all happening, I also realized it wasn't MY fault - heck, I was only 3-4; how could it BE my fault?? He didn't hurt me, physically, but he certainly molested me, as that word describes what someone might do to another, which doesn't necessarily involve penile penetration...)
if you leave it to adulthood they're almost certainly too far gone.
YES!! Or will...
Still, why should I have any sympathy for pedophiles of any age?
Only you can answer that. I think it might help, though, to consider that a pedophile is NOT necessarily a molester. Just like an alcoholic is not necessarily a drinker... or a drug addict necessarily a user... or someone who harbors great anger necessarily going to be physically violent...
Should I have sympathy for war criminals because some might have been child soldiers?
If they are war criminals... then a crime has already been committed. The author... and I... are talking about BEFORE a crime... molestation... has been committed. If you saw a child killing an animal... would you say that child needs some kind of help... or would you wait until he grew up and killed man before you thought so? What if that child came to you and said, "I think I want to kill something/someone." Would you think that child needed help? Do you think society should provide it?
What, then, if a child... young person... adult... were able to go to someone and say, "I think I want to have sex with [a] child(ren)?" Would you wait until he/she became an adult and actually HAD sex with a child... before thinking they could benefit from some kind of help?
These people who hack of arms and legs and leave mutilated people?
Crime already committed...
At what point do we stop analyzing and come to the logical conclusion that these individuals do not deserve the freedom to walk our streets and work in our schools?
AFTER a crime has been committed, perhaps. What, though, if we (society) could intervene... and by doing so... prevent the crime... by offering help early on? Which we can only do by making it safe for such ones to SEEK help... which we can only do if we have some level of SYMPATHY for their "illness"? What of that? Because that's what the author is suggesting...
Because with an almost infinitesimal alteration to your own genetic code you could be one? "There but for the grace of god..."
Amen... and amen, dear Six! I marvel that SO many think they're better and in a place to judge... when the truth is that most of us simply dodged a bullet genetically... and perhaps even accidentally.
Anyway, dear ones... it would behoove [some of you] to actually read the article... as well as the comments... in FULL... and maybe even ask for clarification if you don't understand something... before jumping to the [very wrong] conclusions that you sometimes do. There's a wise saying about answering a thing "before fully hearing it." Not very intelligent... or wise.
Peace!
A slave of Christ,
SA