snoozy
I have a huge problem with some of the studies done on paedophiles and/or sexual abusers.
They can only target the ones they catch. Therefore maybe that targeted population is too dumb to not get caught. The smart ones don't get caught. Or they know how to silence their victims well enough that the victims never disclose.
And just how do they determine who isn't a pedophile? Do they ask them? If a guy is pretty smart and he is a pedophile I think his answer will be "no not me". Don't believe everything you read on the internet. Bad research is BAD research. Period
LADY LEE..I think the majority of both abused and convicts will have a tendency to abuse or break the law in one way or another. It is what they have grown up with. Now changing is a different thing. I would like to see the statistics on that.
I think of it like being raised a JW..It is hard to NOT think like one even when you are out for several years. Children raised in it and then leave still have many fears they had as a JW. Somethings are just hard to stop. If someone lives in a abusive home I think they will have a tendency to be abusive in their own relationships as well. It's all they know for a while. At least till they get help. They may not even be aware they are doing it until someone may point it out to them..
No it is not a "tendency". It is a higher risk. The two are different. Very different. And what does "a tendency to abuse or break the law in one way or another" actually mean? Because I was abused I might go out and rob people? Or hold up a bank? Or abuse a kid?
Good research is specific. Good research never says "in one way or another". Good research would say "Of the 250 people we studied, 25 had disclosed histories of child sexual abuse and they had a higher rate of being caught and convicted of criminal behavior than the other 225 people."
I also wanted to add that I feel sorry for anyone with a mental defect of any kind..it is not their fault in my eyes. I do believe it is always a mental or physical defect in one way or another in both criminals and pedophiles that cause them to behave the way they do and should be helped or even controlled in one way or another...
If you were to use the definition of "mental defect" really? Depression could be categorized as a mental defect. Or post-traumatic stress disorder. So can Down's Syndrome. Are you saying that both groups of people who suffer from those problems are more likely to commit crimes and especially to sexually abuse a child (no offence to any who suffer from those problems - just making a point how ludicrous the statement is)
People who sexually abuse children are making a choice. They know it is wrong and that if they are caught they will be punished (unless of course they are a JW among other groups). They know they have to silence their victims. They know if they want another shot at the same kid they have to have enough time to make sure no one walks in on them. That all takes shrewdness and planning. And since most of them get away with it for years or even decades I would say that they are pretty smart.
I don't pity them one bit. They made a choice. They could have chosen to not abuse the child. But they didn't do that.
Should they get help? Definitely!
Should they have to pay for their crime? Definitely.
Should they be locked up for life? Considering the alternatives I kinda like putting them on an island together. No way off and no internet.
But I do draw the line at vigilante actions.
Personally I have known far too many sexual abusers to let any one of them off the hook. And I have probably met far more than most people. I would not say one one of them suffered from some mental defect called pedophilia that they could not control.
