Hey STUCK - Howdy bro. I know how your wife is feeling. I was a born-in, left the Witnesses after 44 years from birth. Basically due to injustices, then afterwards I began seeing clearly about the WT society's deceptive teachings. I'll try to address the questions you asked in one of your posts on this page.
1. How did you cope after you learned that the " truth " was a lie ?
I basically began reading a lot of books about mind control by Steve Hassan - " Releasing the Bonds- Empowering People to Think for Themselves " & " Combatting Cult Mind Control " and also read both of Ray Franz's books " Crisis of Conscience " & " In Search of Christian Freedom " . All of these books enabled me to learn how to not be afraid of the future. Especially Hassan's books. I lost my unneeded " fear " & "guilt" which kept me hostage in the Witnesses. Reading books explaining this gave me great peace and calm knowing I didn't have to blame myself anymore. I had been deceived like millions of other people.
2. What did you do the first month ? The first year ? The first ten years ?
I basically began LIVING my life ! In freedom of mind and thought. I still loved my JW family and my adult children, however I lost the fears that were trapping me inside. I went shopping at antique stores. Went golfing more. Went camping or hiking. Enjoyed my leisure Saturday & Sunday mornings to sleep in and rest my physical body . I developed hobbies like colecting music CD's , collecting antique art ( mountain sceneries ), just lived my life to the full in getting to know people- REAL people not fake people. I got to know new friends who really cared about me .
3. What did you do to give your life meaning ? Or fill the void that was left ? Once I learned about mind control I joined thid board in 2007 and have enjoyed assisting people to think freely for themselves and to move on from mind control. It brings me great satisfaction living in the here and now to see people on this board and elsewhere breaking free from the JW cult and learning to think on their own again. I've made lots of great friends and my life has a fullfilment I never had in the Witnesses by just enjoying the present- here and now ! It's what we've got- so make the best use of it ! The great Revelation to me is enjoying the present and living life to the full now. So, that's my 2 cents