I would give it some time. My husband left the organisation 12 years ago and at the time I felt a great deal of anger towards him. It was like he had betrayed me and similar to your wife it was not part of the nice JW plan I had in mind. It is only 12 years later that I have come to finally accept that this is not Jehovah's organisation - if you can hold out that long!
One thing he made sure was that the children did not go on FS, as he felt strongly this really set them apart from other churchgoing families and always celebrated their birthday/Xmas even though it was a real effort to muster up the enthusiasm for these ocassions. It has paid off over time as my exit from the JWs has been easy on the kids as they have not seen any big changes other than they don't go to boring meetings anymore!
Maybe your wife needs some time to work through her feelings and find a way you can both function in a 'divided' household. Confrontation should be avoided. As long as you push, she will push back and closer to the organisation. For as long as you are there for her, you are able to chip chip chip away over time at those strongly entrenched ideas.