When I first started the process of leaving the JWs and becoming inactive my JW mother would say to others, "Jeff WAS such a good boy!"
When I made it clear that I was leaving the JWs and not coming back but I emphasized to my JW parents that I wanted a relationship with them, the response was 'if you leave Jehovah it will be difficult for us to have a relationship with you.'
The fascinating thing is that over the years, my folks have lightened up signficantly over this issue. Heck, they even call me every once in a while which is something that has not happened before.
I think what helps is that I am in Wisconsin and they are in Louisiana so their new elders do not know about me too much since I left that area in 1994. My parents can just say we are going on vacation but they do not have to tell them that they are going to visit or see me. Funny how I have to stay so far away from home to have a closer relationship with my folks. I would imagine that if I lived in Louisiana near the area where I grew up it would be more difficult for them to hang with me as they would get more pressure from the elders to cut me off.