by Cordelia 73 Replies latest members private
((((Cordelia))))
Imo it doesn't really matter what you do as long as you have not made your mind to live for your own sake and on your own terms, and to pay the price for that, including guilt. And when you have you probably won't feel like asking for anybody's advice.
To be or not to be, that is the question.
Best wishes to you.
I don't have any suggestions but am very glad you posted because your words prove that JW love is not the love that Jesus taught.
Thankyou,
Bob Evans
Walland, TN
Why ask for more advice? You've ignored everything suggested to you so far. By broadcasting your indecision, all you will do is receive dozens of more suggestions, all different.I fear you are condemned to bob along like a cork on the ocean, at the whim and the wind of whomever you are with. You will continue to hurt those around you and be hurt by those you care about, as long as you pick the path of least resistance. I suggest you find a really strong person to take over all decisions for you. A circuit overseer at least.
Yep.
Lisa
What She Said, Class
*Sigh*
*shrugs and shakes head*
Double ditto what everyone else said.
Josie
| i do understand what you are all saying, i guess i must be one of them people who trys to make everyone else happy, i guess i feel like now if im not with the bf i thought was so special then i may as well be with my family, but really he mustnt of been that special when i think about how certain things were! or i wouldnt of give him up again when i had come so farm i like garybus comment and its true i guess if i stay dfed i do have the best of both worlds i can do what i want and my family are abit happier coz they think im trying to get reinstated! maybe thats the answer for now do abit of both till i finally grow a backbone and decide what i truely want, i guess the question i wanted to ask was about how hard it is leaving the 'truth' for a person? and when it doesnt work out you feel like its all so pointless, but i know its not coz ive found out its not the 'truth' after all> i guess i wondered if anyone has left and ended up with a worldly person they didnt leave for, i can imagine its hard coz they wouldnt understand all the shit youd been thru but then maybe that would be best!!! |
anyone been there?
i guess i wondered if anyone has left and ended up with a worldly person they didnt leave for
?? Most certainly!
I wouldn't suggest leaving the organization for anyone but yourself and children if you have any.
That's the problem when you strive to make others happy. In the end NO ONE is happy.
I suspect you had similar problems with your boyfriend. You were trying to do things to make him happy. Things he didn't really care if you did or not. So both of you end up unhappy. You must make YOURSELF happy FIRST and FOREMOST. Tilting at windmills is a useless excercise. Until you can be happy on your own you cannot share your happiness with others.
I have paid my own price with my family for my choices. It's not my fault they are in a cult. But I can't be happy within their walls.
Good luck. Remember, indesicion IS A DECISION! You have chosen to put your life on hold, or let others chose. It's still a choice even if it's a lack of choice.
I was thinking about you on the home from work today. How well do you know your namesake?
Do you think Anne-with-an-E would allow herself to be manipulated?
Dave
You need to decide what YOU want out of your life, regardless of what family, friends, JWs, and boyfriends want. Sit down and draw out a map of your life and where you want it to lead. Then work your ass of to make it happen. Stick to it, no matter what anyone "likes". It's not their life - it's yours. That means YOU make the rules.
Your family isn't likely to respect you as long as you allow them to manipulate you.
W
