by Cordelia 73 Replies latest members private
everyone will try and get my daughter to live with her dad, coz she shouldnt be brought up by a worldly person!!!!! how far will these people take things,
Thats utter shite...the courts wouldnt see it that way; there is almost a presumption that the child will be better with the mother (although no judge would admit to this but it tends to be the way the family law system works).
You know where I am if they dare ever pull a stunt like that!
DB74
Cordy, Look you are a grown woman with a child and you have to do what is in his/her best interest. You need some time away from everyone. Just some Cordy and your little one time. Just the two of you. No husband, No Boyfriend, No Family. The only other person involved with you during this time should be a counselor. You need to get YOUR act together for your child and for you. You have to stop listening to everyone else. Of course, your family just want you back in the cult that is all they know. If you don't believe in it you need to put your foot down and be done with it. You need to spend some time with yourself so you can figure out who you are, what you want and only then will you be able to have a relationship with your EX or a Boyfriend and have it be successful, you may realize you don't want either and need to move on. If you choose to leave the Cult initially your family will be devastated, but in time if you live a good moral life perhaps they will come around. It is the people who go off the deep end when they leave and start going crazy living an immoral life etc that make it difficult for their family members to still associate with them. Your family will not be happy but they will adjust, if not trust me you make new friends who will become like family and it will be your families loss. Remember, if you go back that would mean you would have to raise your child in the "LIE" and how would that be for them. THey would be confused. Hearing all the bull a the meetings and then having to live another life when they were away. I think you know what you should do, it is just not easy and there is NO EASY WAY OUT!
May I ask you to consider this:
If, in twenty years time, your daughter comes to you and says that she's fallen in love with a non-JW boyfriend, but she's scared of it getting out in case her Grandma shuns her - what will you advise her?
good piont ross i would tell her to go for it, its just so hard my family love me so much and i will hurt them far more than if id took all your advice in the first place! i do realise that and im sorry!! x
db thank you so much i could nt believe he said that!! thanks for saying youd be there for me,x
ballistic i know youre right they told me that at the hospital and gave me a sheet about it, but i think i must be addicted to it coz i couldnt resist!!!! but i will try didnt realise mhy they said it and my head is so sore still!! x
