Ian.....You certainly didn't offend. And there's no way I could bring myself to read your thread. I know that it would upset me too much. I've been hurt too but it was only my ego. The stories I've read on this site rip me apart. Mate, I reckon that you don't welcome the surmising because you don't want us to get our hopes up too high - disappointment hurts. Hey, everyone here is used to that.
This is an opportunity to fantasize. It's not the end of the world if your lottery ticket doesn't win. But I feel that you are as sure as I am that Barbara has something magic here.
(Just don't mention the Ashes).