by AuldSoul 101 Replies latest members private
Thanks for the replies. I have also discovered that someone has been encouraging my wife to view me as "bad association."
So much for trying to keep families together! HAH!
Love your husband, respect your husband, but don't talk to your husband because he is "bad association."
Where in the Bible are elders granted more authority in my household than I have?
AuldSoul
interesting.
I wasn't raised JW; how is someone to treat a spouse who is 'bad association'?
Never been an elder, but my radar was going ping-ping-ping-ping when I read that three elders want you to come to the hall for a meeting.
If they're concerned for your spiritual well-being why can't they come visit you at home? Someone who was really concerned would seek you out and offer help instead of coercing you into a tribunal in a closed room.
I don't know your situation exactly, but I've only been in a hall once or twice in the last year. If I got a call asking me to come to the hall to meet with three elders, I would kindly refuse.
Okay, detail question for stilla (no offense intended blondie, but he was an elder): Suppose it is a JC, if I hand them a DA letter before I leave would they be able to DF me? The reason I ask is because I want to be clearly DAd and NOT DFd at the end of this thing. AuldSoul DOES NOT MATTER - SEE THE OD BOOK - THE ANNOUNCEMENT IS THE SAME - -SO AND SO IS NO LONGER ONE OF JEHOVAHS WITNESSES
I have also discovered that someone has been encouraging my wife to view me as "bad association."
That's what happened to me, and my marriage fell apart soon afterward. The "encouragement" she received was from the elders. Unfortunately, she forgot a talk at a circuit assembly where the speaker stated that a woman "was not required to be in subjection to every brother in the congregation, only to her husband." I'm not sure if they ever put that in print. I'll have to check when I get home.
W
Cover yourself every which way possible.
Some good rules for handling interrogation:
1) Deny everything
2) Make counter-accusations
3) Respond to all questions with a question
When Gina was interrogated at a JC for her involvement in our Christmas activities (which we both denied, and thus kept her from being DF'd), the elders warned her -- with me sitting there -- that wicked influences from within her own household would work to bring her down spiritually. It was extremely comical, since I knew Gina thought it was all a load of crap and would grabbing a cigarette as soon as we got out of there. But the elders were very earnest in warning her about the influence I may have over her.
From the authors of "The Secret to Family Happiness" -- Ha!
Dave
Thanks for the replies. I have also discovered that someone has been encouraging my wife to view me as "bad association."
Hmmm. I wonder if you could sue for alienation of affection.
stilla, true enough. However, I would rather that my open letter in the local paper states honestly that I disassociated myself. That would make a big difference.
AuldSoul
