Should Gay marriages be legalised? (page 8)

FlyingHighNow

FHN....just becaue you are an utter failure at marriage doesn't mean you should deprive others of the same ordeal. LOL j/k

He he, you're so cute and funny. Now, I didn't say I failed at the marriage thing, did I? Maybe it was my two knucklehead husbands.

Gretchen
Good point. Studies have also shown that it is better for a child to grow up in a step family than with their genetic parents in a destructive relationship. It not the type of family that is important but rather stability for the children.

Latte

Gretchen,

Studies have been done, and they find that children of gay couples are just as well-adjusted as children of heterosexual couples

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I can’t help wondering if those 'studies' were done by gay researchers….one really can’t help but wonder that……..Still I am really pleased to hear that. I have viewed gay families on TV programmes, and certainly some do seem real nice families.

They have found that children of gay couples are not more likely to "turn out gay," because you don't turn out gay, you are either born that way or you are not.

I do believe that this may have been true at one time, but, now I think that the gay community have overdone their job of getting everyone to accept them. It seems to me that kids these days are offered ‘alternative lifestyle choices’ ie. You can be gay or you can choose to be straight - the choice is yours.

I guess people can only draw on there own life experiences, mine had a mom and dad. I remember distinctly what I loved about my Father, the stubble on his face when he came home from a days work - his manly stance and way about him…..my Mother baking in the kitchen, the contrast and softness of my mom... her gentle caring way.

Yes, I had a good family life as a child, and I subsequently want the same for my children - without them constantly getting the message of ’ yes, it’s OK to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend’ I want the same for them if possible. I s that too much to ask? Is wanting that somehow offensive??

I feel strongly that you should let the children grown up without wondering about their sexuality all the time- it sickens me to the stomach how young kids are bombarded with articles aimed at them to get them thinking about sex all the time. My god there’s plenty of time when ones grows up for all that! Let children have a childhood I say.

Now I know that no minds may be changed by this exchange, but the facts should not be distorted.

So true!

Latte

Abaddon

Is this thread locked yet? void: Thnk about what people have said. Your fury at not being agreed with speaks volumes. Latte

They have found that children of gay couples are not more likely to "turn out gay," because you don't turn out gay, you are either born that way or you are not.
I do believe that this may have been true at one time, but, now I think that the gay community have overdone their job of getting everyone to accept them. It seems to me that kids these days are offered ‘alternative lifestyle choices’ ie. You can be gay or you can choose to be straight - the choice is yours.

I think you make the mistake of thinking of homosexuality as something akin to a hairstyle. Or a lifestyle choice, like being self sufficient (as in the "Good Life"). It isn't. It's normally part of someone's biological make-up. They can no more make it go away than a myopic person can decide to have good eyesight by concentrating on it, or a person with blond hair can make it brown by clicking their heels together three times. That is why gay parents don't automatically bring up gay children unless the children were born gay. You might not LIKE the idea that it is an innate characteristic, but ALL the evidence, anecdotal life stories to statistical meta-analysis, reveal this to be so. Obviously SOME people do NOT become gay even if they are "made that way". But that is because of the intense social pressure to conform even today. Typically they are not happy because they are forcing themselves to live an unatural life. But, why not provide evidence that gay parents produce children who grow up gay in greater quantities than heterosexual parents? With respect, their isn't any reputable evidence you WILL be able to find. Prehaps then you need o reconsider your opinion in light of the evidence?

Gretchen956

I can’t help wondering if those 'studies' were done by gay researchers….one really can’t help but wonder that

Not unless major medical universities and the American Psychiatric Association are gay researchers. What they are though, are people who are going into it without their mind made up as to what the conclusion will be. Actually in one article I read it said that the researchers were surprised by the results. So doesn't sound to me like someone who was "creating" the result they wanted.

No kids are not more likely to be gay in a gay household. Why? Because we aren't any more open about sexual acts in front of our children than anyone else is. Gay people do not sit around all day watching gay porno in front of their kids. Sometimes I wonder what type of things conservatives think we get up to (never mind, I don't want to know). Our lives are pretty mundane like most people. We take our kids to soccer practice or football practice or baseball practice, sit with them when they are sick, go to parent teacher conferences, and do everything else that any parent would do.

Being gay isn't about having sex with people of the same gender, if it were most prison populations would be almost entirely gay. It is about loving another person of your gender. About being in love with another person of your gender. About caring for them and about them and wanting to spend the rest of your life with them.

That "lifestyle" looks every bit the same as a heterosexual except for that gender difference. I have lived both and I know. I don't have the search down pat on this board (its hard to use if its even working), but I have posted my story more than once. I tried very hard to be straight. I got married because I was supposed to, had a child within that marriage. But I was not straight and I was not happy. I gave it every effort for 15 years because that was what I was supposed to do. I didn't get a divorce because I had a woman on the side, either.

Now I can be who I was created to be. My spirituality is deeper, and my life is happier. My son and I are best friends.

Sherry

Latte

Gretchen,

Now I can be who I was created to be. My spirituality is deeper, and my life is happier. My son and I are best friends.

That is truly a good thing.

John Doe

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