Qcmbr,
I so agree with your comments…..you have a great way of putting my thoughts into words! Thank you!
You said......
Now if marriage is IMO about family it is here that we would expect to see the greatest benefits for individuals and society when it works and the greatest suffering and hurt when it doesn't. I haven't yet seen a report that says kids are better when the father is not there or are smarter or do better in life but I have seen a lot that talk about social deprevation, higher crime and school drop out rates when a father is absent (especially for boys.) Now in general mothers look after the children so its the men who are moving away from the family as the marriage fails. This has a devastating impact on the men - socially, mentally and often financially (they will often struggle to support any new family as well as the old.) The children suffer for the rest of their lives - you never get over family breakup - you just learn to cope. For mothers left looking after children they are often finacially in trouble are less likely to be able to give the kids as much time as before (she will almost certainly have to work if she is to raise the family out of poverty unless the former husband was very well off.) Marriage failure is a world of hurt. When it works however, there is no better system for providing for the emotional, financial and physical needs of all the partners to the marriage , man , wife and children.
I hope the gay community is as grown up as it thinks it is in that if it argues it already has these things then it doesn't need marriage as well - leave that for those who will bring children into this world through the love between a man and a woman.
I remember Sir Bob Geldof, recently, being absolutely emphatic as to the fact that children thrive within a a family environment where there is a both a mother and father. I know such family situations are not always the norm these days, but as Qcmbr stated……..
When it works however, there is no better system for providing for the emotional, financial and physical needs of all the partners to the marriage , man , wife and children.
Latte