SkepticThat was an excellent post. Thank you for it.
Thank you for your kind words.
Personally I like BT's idea - sex only within marriage (or committed relationships) Might solve a lot of problems
Not necessarily. With the mindgame I described, I was committed to the relationship. To her it was just a game. She only stopped because my kid became very attached to her. He was so angry at her when he found out the truth. Such people do not care who gets hurt, as long as they have their fun.
As for the woman who abused me on this forum, I was committed. I passed up two or three possible relationships here and one online (that lady was a damned fine catch - but I told her that I was already in a relationship; now I feel like a fool) because I wanted to stay loyal to her. Alas, she was just a player and she deliberately wanted to hurt me.
Committment is not a safeguard against sick individuals.
Ironically, the non-committed sex I had was less enjoyable but not subject to abuse. I always state upfront what my intentions are. In each case, I have been treated well by the women whom I told I was not in it for the long term. Most of them are still friends.
But you are right. When a person enters into a committed relationship with an honest partner, there is nothing like it, in or out of the bedroom.