Posts by Tameria2001

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What’s The Worst Thing About Jehovah’s Witnesses?

by minimus in

jw
friends

witnesses brag about their brotherhood and incredible love that exists within the organization.

they say they are really the only true religion.

is the jw religion the closest thing to jesus christ himself?.

Tameria2001

The worst thing about the JWs is the amount of trust they put in their fellow witnesses and the GB. Before any would argue with this, think about the child abuse issues that is going on, and being exposed. When the higher ups say shun, the members don't bother asking why, they just do.

As far as the amount of trust, my husband personally of a case where a brother was waking and he got picked up by another brother. The brother who was driving the car was murdered by the one he picked up. When the authorities caught the murder, the reason was because he wanted the car. There are a few other cases, but I won't bother talking about those, all involving current JWs at the time of the crime.

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married young--in the cult--divorced ?

by stan livedeath in

following on from mrquik's thread.... who of us married at an early age to another j-dub ?

how long did the marriage last?.

how did it end ?.

Tameria2001

My husband and I were both 23 when we got married, We've been married for 25 years (September 2018), two children, and are still married. We left the Watchtower together 18 years ago, although even being raised in it, my husband was never mentally in, just went through the motions because that was what his parents wanted.

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Age when parents should stop bathing their children

by Wonderment in

by what age should parents stop bathing and wiping their children's bottoms?

when are these actions a definitely no-no?.

Tameria2001

A lot depends on the parent and child. As far as a parent, a first-time parent would do things differently than a parent who has been down that road before. As far as the child, can't really put an age, because it depends on the mental capacity of the child.

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Strict Implementation & Compliance

by Minae in

are jws strict in implementing and complying on their rules for dating / relationship / marriage?.

what happened when one does not abide by the rules?.

Tameria2001

Yes, they have very strict rules. When I was dating my husband, before we were married it was a very stressful time in my life. If a JW breaks the rules they will face some form of punishment, from reproof to being kicked out of the religion, which would lead to being shunned by everyone that is a member of that religion, including family members.

These are a few of those rules

A couple must have a chaperone, and never be by themselves. No touching, other than hand holding, they even frown on hugs. No sex before a couple is actually married, and they even have rules about what is allowed and not allowed after you are married, or at least it was when I was still a member.

This leads to some serious issues because quite a few of their young members get married just so they can have sex. Because of this, a couple doesn't get married because this is the person they want to be with for life but can find themselves not compatible. As a JW you are not allowed to remarry unless the other person has admitted to adultery.

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2019-2049

by Alex Bogdanov in

jw
friends

"people who were born in 1914 will see the armageddon" i heard it so many times.. "alex you left!

you are making a mistake.

the armageddon is nearly here" i heard it so many times.. it is 2019. no sign of the end.. i can make the same post in 2029 and 2039 and 2049. sadly in 2049 there will be crazy jws telling me the end is tomorrow.

Tameria2001

I remember how urgent it was back in the late 80s/early 90s. I friend of mine, an older sister, who claimed she was of the anointed, I'm fairly sure she has since passed away. I don't know if any here knew her or not, but her name was Mary Bartlett, she would often say, "If we knew how close we were to the great day of judgment, we would just die from a heart attack." Don't know why she used that term. But listening to her, she would give the impression that it would happen before the week ended.

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2019-2049

by Alex Bogdanov in

jw
friends

"people who were born in 1914 will see the armageddon" i heard it so many times.. "alex you left!

you are making a mistake.

the armageddon is nearly here" i heard it so many times.. it is 2019. no sign of the end.. i can make the same post in 2029 and 2039 and 2049. sadly in 2049 there will be crazy jws telling me the end is tomorrow.

Tameria2001

It's ironic that the bible says that no man knows the day or the hour, and there is a reason for that. And when you get a person or a group says the end is either near or just right around the corner, and it does not come to pass Deuteronomy says they are false prophets, and not to fear such one(s). The Watchtower has proven itself as one, and much worse.

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Would You Shelter An Illegal Alien Seeking To Come To Your Country?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i know many people support leniency for illegal aliens.

they feel terrible for them and often feel laws should be changed so we can welcome people who are not as fortunate as we might be.. would you allow an illegal alien to reside with you in your home, with your family?

.

Tameria2001

No, I would never invite an illegal immigrant into my home, much less live with me. I don't care what their circumstances are. When they come in illegally, they are breaking the law, pure and simple.

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Did you ever needlessly quit ajob as a witness ?

by Steel in

my wife has a friend ( male ) with a six month old baby who just decided to be unemployed and had a fairly good paying job.

without giving up too much information it seems quite weird.

the reason i ask is because i have been in meetings and assemblies and some of the advice they like to give doesn't seem very intelligence about being a productive member of society.

Tameria2001

I've never quit a job because I was a JW, but I had taken some gawd awful jobs because I was one. There was one time, and it was a serious matter involving jobs and my husband.

Back in between the years of 2000 and 2001, my husband worked very long shift hours, and it involved him missing quite a few of their meetings. Our family was having some serious financial issues involving many different things, and it was because of his income we were able to make ends meet. They tried many different tactics to guilt him into quitting his job, which would have left us without any income. He didn't fall for it, at the time I didn't know that he no longer believed the crap that was coming from the Watchtower.

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Christian or Atheists?

by Skipper254 in

in my brief time on this site, i've come to realize that most people who have been shunned or stray away from the jehovah witnesses normally end up having no faith at all.

my curiosity has led me to the conclusion that the gb has created more atheists than believers...... .

Tameria2001

I don't feel that the GB has caused people who leave to lose faith in God or spiritual things. The thing I have noticed about this is that once a person gets a chance to think for themselves and fully figure out what is right for them, they end up going down different paths. The most import part is that finally, a person is able to think for themselves, and ask questions. Once those are answered, they will then decide what to do. As far as most becoming Atheist I do not believe this.

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Advice on Disassociating

by HiddenPimo in

hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.

i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?

i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.

Tameria2001

Back in June 2001, I had decided that I didn't want to be associated with the JWs or the Watchtower (my mother became a JW back in the early 1970s when I was 4. At the time I had written a DA letter, but I didn't send it in, because I was attempting to fade out of the religion. The main thing I brought up was how the Watchtower has shown itself as a false prophet. My mother became a JW because they had lied to her and actually told her that in the fall of 1975 it would be the end of this system of things, and she would be reunited with her baby girl who had died a couple of years before that.

It was my brother in law who pushed the issues, and it came down to either being DF (was checking out a church) or DA myself. Looking back there were things I wished I had done differently, but it's too late now. I don't regret sending in my letter, because it did, for the most part put an end to the mind games that my dysfunctional JW relatives were playing on me.

The ExJW Critical Thinker on Youtube does have some very helpful information regarding this decision, and it was something I really wished I had known when I made this decision. Here is a link to a few of those videos.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hORbz5GT8bM&list=PLy2PlbUKvwXkatO6osArdYq_LS8V06_Y7

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCAOW9mrTV8&list=PLy2PlbUKvwXkatO6osArdYq_LS8V06_Y7&index=2

These are a couple, but they have others you can also check out. I hope you can find some helpful information to help you to make the best decision for you.