Posts by Tameria2001

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Strict Implementation & Compliance

by Minae in

are jws strict in implementing and complying on their rules for dating / relationship / marriage?.

what happened when one does not abide by the rules?.

Tameria2001

Yes, they have very strict rules. When I was dating my husband, before we were married it was a very stressful time in my life. If a JW breaks the rules they will face some form of punishment, from reproof to being kicked out of the religion, which would lead to being shunned by everyone that is a member of that religion, including family members.

These are a few of those rules

A couple must have a chaperone, and never be by themselves. No touching, other than hand holding, they even frown on hugs. No sex before a couple is actually married, and they even have rules about what is allowed and not allowed after you are married, or at least it was when I was still a member.

This leads to some serious issues because quite a few of their young members get married just so they can have sex. Because of this, a couple doesn't get married because this is the person they want to be with for life but can find themselves not compatible. As a JW you are not allowed to remarry unless the other person has admitted to adultery.

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2019-2049

by Alex Bogdanov in

jw
friends

"people who were born in 1914 will see the armageddon" i heard it so many times.. "alex you left!

you are making a mistake.

the armageddon is nearly here" i heard it so many times.. it is 2019. no sign of the end.. i can make the same post in 2029 and 2039 and 2049. sadly in 2049 there will be crazy jws telling me the end is tomorrow.

Tameria2001

I remember how urgent it was back in the late 80s/early 90s. I friend of mine, an older sister, who claimed she was of the anointed, I'm fairly sure she has since passed away. I don't know if any here knew her or not, but her name was Mary Bartlett, she would often say, "If we knew how close we were to the great day of judgment, we would just die from a heart attack." Don't know why she used that term. But listening to her, she would give the impression that it would happen before the week ended.

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2019-2049

by Alex Bogdanov in

jw
friends

"people who were born in 1914 will see the armageddon" i heard it so many times.. "alex you left!

you are making a mistake.

the armageddon is nearly here" i heard it so many times.. it is 2019. no sign of the end.. i can make the same post in 2029 and 2039 and 2049. sadly in 2049 there will be crazy jws telling me the end is tomorrow.

Tameria2001

It's ironic that the bible says that no man knows the day or the hour, and there is a reason for that. And when you get a person or a group says the end is either near or just right around the corner, and it does not come to pass Deuteronomy says they are false prophets, and not to fear such one(s). The Watchtower has proven itself as one, and much worse.

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Would You Shelter An Illegal Alien Seeking To Come To Your Country?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i know many people support leniency for illegal aliens.

they feel terrible for them and often feel laws should be changed so we can welcome people who are not as fortunate as we might be.. would you allow an illegal alien to reside with you in your home, with your family?

.

Tameria2001

No, I would never invite an illegal immigrant into my home, much less live with me. I don't care what their circumstances are. When they come in illegally, they are breaking the law, pure and simple.

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Did you ever needlessly quit ajob as a witness ?

by Steel in

my wife has a friend ( male ) with a six month old baby who just decided to be unemployed and had a fairly good paying job.

without giving up too much information it seems quite weird.

the reason i ask is because i have been in meetings and assemblies and some of the advice they like to give doesn't seem very intelligence about being a productive member of society.

Tameria2001

I've never quit a job because I was a JW, but I had taken some gawd awful jobs because I was one. There was one time, and it was a serious matter involving jobs and my husband.

Back in between the years of 2000 and 2001, my husband worked very long shift hours, and it involved him missing quite a few of their meetings. Our family was having some serious financial issues involving many different things, and it was because of his income we were able to make ends meet. They tried many different tactics to guilt him into quitting his job, which would have left us without any income. He didn't fall for it, at the time I didn't know that he no longer believed the crap that was coming from the Watchtower.

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Christian or Atheists?

by Skipper254 in

in my brief time on this site, i've come to realize that most people who have been shunned or stray away from the jehovah witnesses normally end up having no faith at all.

my curiosity has led me to the conclusion that the gb has created more atheists than believers...... .

Tameria2001

I don't feel that the GB has caused people who leave to lose faith in God or spiritual things. The thing I have noticed about this is that once a person gets a chance to think for themselves and fully figure out what is right for them, they end up going down different paths. The most import part is that finally, a person is able to think for themselves, and ask questions. Once those are answered, they will then decide what to do. As far as most becoming Atheist I do not believe this.

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Advice on Disassociating

by HiddenPimo in

hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.

i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?

i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.

Tameria2001

Back in June 2001, I had decided that I didn't want to be associated with the JWs or the Watchtower (my mother became a JW back in the early 1970s when I was 4. At the time I had written a DA letter, but I didn't send it in, because I was attempting to fade out of the religion. The main thing I brought up was how the Watchtower has shown itself as a false prophet. My mother became a JW because they had lied to her and actually told her that in the fall of 1975 it would be the end of this system of things, and she would be reunited with her baby girl who had died a couple of years before that.

It was my brother in law who pushed the issues, and it came down to either being DF (was checking out a church) or DA myself. Looking back there were things I wished I had done differently, but it's too late now. I don't regret sending in my letter, because it did, for the most part put an end to the mind games that my dysfunctional JW relatives were playing on me.

The ExJW Critical Thinker on Youtube does have some very helpful information regarding this decision, and it was something I really wished I had known when I made this decision. Here is a link to a few of those videos.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hORbz5GT8bM&list=PLy2PlbUKvwXkatO6osArdYq_LS8V06_Y7

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCAOW9mrTV8&list=PLy2PlbUKvwXkatO6osArdYq_LS8V06_Y7&index=2

These are a couple, but they have others you can also check out. I hope you can find some helpful information to help you to make the best decision for you.

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The Organizations obsession with image.

by BourneIdentity in

as we all know, the highest priority or concern in the religion isn’t about adhering to god’s word or obeying jehovah and jesus, but rather the image of the organization and all its members.

just yesterday there was a talk where the brother stated how important it is to keep our homes clean, yards free of junk piling up and cars clean, because it could possibly detract from the message.

besides those things he mentioned, they want all males to never grow a beard or goatee.

Tameria2001

I remember the first time the whole appearance struck me as odd, was back when I was in high school, and before I was baptized. There was a young single brother in my congregation, and his sister came to visit him (for about a month). His sister was a regular pioneer at the time. I remember my mom having a fit because she was staying with him at his home, and how it did not look right that two single people be living together. Everyone knew who she was, including their neighbors, and no one thought anything about that.

I'm not sure if there were any others in the congregation who had a fit about it, but I do know that a short time after that, the young brother disassociated himself, and immediately after that joined up with the military.

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Engaged and having a baby, I’m not JW fiancé is

by Viarayne in

i’m not interested in becoming a jehovah’s witness but have nothing against people who are, or whatever religion someone chooses to follow for that matter.

i am here because i have some questions regarding my family and i. .

my fiancé stopped going to church prior to us meeting.

Tameria2001

Incognito said something that reminded me of something. I know at the moment you are probably not thinking about it, but it would be a very wise idea to discuss with your doctor, and put down on paper your wishes in case of a medical emergency regarding blood. Hopefully, everything goes smoothly regarding your birth, but just in case there are any complications that might happen. Even past that, make sure your wishes will be honored in case of an accident that would require emergency medical attention. If you leave this in the hands of your future husband, most likely he will prevent the doctors from giving you a blood transfusion.

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What is some good information I can anonymously give my neighbor (foreign language)?

by Tameria2001 in

eight years ago the jws were making return visits with my spanish speaking neighbor (she speaks very little english).

they were calling on her during a period in her life that things were not so good.

i already know that jws love to take opportunities like this to try to suck someone into their cult.

Tameria2001

Eight years ago the JWs were making return visits with my Spanish speaking neighbor (she speaks very little English). They were calling on her during a period in her life that things were not so good. I already know that JWs love to take opportunities like this to try to suck someone into their cult. Back then I had left some information in her door (she does not own a computer, nor does she use one), that warned her what she was getting involved with. It worked because shortly after that the JWs stopped coming to her home.

And now they are back at it again, but this time I want to warn her about the pedophile problem that is getting exposed to the world. Her young adult daughter is living back home with her, along with her 2-year-old granddaughter. The reason for her daughter's break up with her current ex is because he was caught by grandma (my neighbor) when he was getting ready to violate her granddaughter. I want to print up some information on how the Watchtower is getting exposed as a religion that is punishing the victims while protecting the predators. I want to leave this for her so she will know what goes on, in that cult. No one knows that I use to be a JW in my area and I want to keep it that way.

What are some good sites information that I can print off, and in Spanish, dealing with this topic?