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  I have JUST become a GREAT GRANNY Of Twins.

  by mouthy in

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  henry 51bs 12 oz,eve 51bs 14 oz...phil my grnason by marriage just called.. ashley the new mum) my granddaughter who herself was a twin,from my melanie who died when she was 42(cancer).

  they are doing well born by ceaserian at 2.40p.m today!!!!!

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  ruderedhead

  Congrats!
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  You put your right foot in...you put your left foot out...

  by hokeypokey in

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  enjoying the commentary on this board and up at night doing some research.

  coming to grips with my new reality.

  - hokey pokey.

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  Welcome!
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  Doc says it looks like my cancer is gone! How goes the health of y' all?

  by humbled in

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  i am pleased to announce that i get to retain my bottom intact for the foreseeable future.. .

  milestone check-up just done.

  i had a stage 3, 4t anal canal cancer for which i underwent chemo and radiation this past spring.

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  Congratulations! That is awesome! Continued good health to you, Maeve.
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  The packages will arrive today... What do you think will happen?

  by Faithful Witness in

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  i have decided that ignoring my niece and nephew during the holidays, is the most unloving thing i could possibly do.

  they stopped celebrating christmas and birthdays, after my sister began studying with jw's about 6-7 years ago.

  we did not celebrate either, until 3 years ago, when my son was 2 and my daughter was 4, and we'd figured out that the jw's are wrong about this decision.

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  Sounds lke they have accepted them before, so they will probably accept them again, but, again, without acknowledgment. You are doing the right thing for the kids, you obviously have a lot of love and compassion. Try not to be hurt, just think of the kids. You respected their beliefs having them wrapped in non-holiday paper. The kids will be thrilled and will be able to secretly share what gifts they recieved at school. You are showing true Christian qualities here. You are Awesome! Merry Christmas!
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  How to get through an Assembly?

  by kaxozula in

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  me just learning the truth about the truth has just made it hard to even get through a two hour meeting at the the kingdom hall.

  i get so sleepy during them and i almost cannot contain it!

  the last time i went to a convention, i was still an avid believer but as you can see, that has changed.

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  You've received some great suggestions here. Volunteer for anything (making you look zealous, while getting you out of listening), offer to take a fussy baby/child for a short walk to give the parents some relief (making you look thoughtful, again while getting you away from the talks, just don't be gone more than 20-30 min.), and if you must, take many notes. This will keep your parents off you track.

  I hope you are doing something to improve your chances for a better paying job. I am assuming you are a young person, so if you have to play the game for a while, do what you have to. Just have a long range plan for your future. If your parents object to your getting some type of higher education, be it college or trade school, tell them it is for the future, you will be able to give more to the society if you have a better paying job, without needing to worry about paying bills, working 2 jobs, etc. You will be able to give your all to them.

  Be patient, you can do this!
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  oh dear I think I messed up and pushed too hard

  by Frazzled UBM in

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  reading all the posts on the wt study on higher education and careers really fired me up yesterday.

  i have 2 undergraduate and 2 postgraduate degerees and a career as a result which allows me to provide well for my jw wife and son.

  i was already unhappy because after 5 or 6 weeks of not going and appearing to be making progress she went back on sunday for the second sunday in a row and as usual was away all day.

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  Sounds like you are a man that usually thinks thing through.

  Hmmm, you say that she has old friends from the Phillipines in her current congregation, giving her a sense of community. Are there any any Fillipino organizations in the community you could join with her to help her develop a new sense of community & help the kids identify a bit more with Mom's heritage?? Don't know if she would be open to that, but it might be worth a shot. All the best to you, crazy. Keep up the good fight, and Merry Christmas!
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  I met a lovely x JW sister this morning

  by KateWild in

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  on my way to work, i saw my neighbour from the next street sitting at the bus stop as usual.

  i always offer her a lift and say hello and try to "encourage" her.. the family was in our book study, the kids know i love them to bits.. well did the flood gates open or what, she has got old mags she wants show me, internet websites.

  if she is on here she hasn't worked it out yet.

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  ruderedhead

  Another one bites the dust, Kate? Hoping she finds her way out. Please keep us updated!
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  scum bag elder

  by Crazyguy in

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  so last night i had a family meeting and told my kids that i was quitting as a jw and then gave my wife my da letter to give to the one elder i like at the hall tonight.

  so this morning i see a text from the co elder the one that met with me and is gunning to get me out and had already tried to get me to a jc meeting this week.

  so the text reads "your wife has informed me of your letter and its sad to hear, would like to meet one last time not as a jc, to be sure this is what you want.".

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  I don't think your wife is your judas, crazyguy. I'm sure she loves you, and may just be trying to get you "back to the flock."

  Have you been very direct with her, asking her what she is discussing with the elders? Perhaps you should sit down with your children one on one to gently & respectfully tell them what you know about the org., asking them in the beginning to please listen to you before they shut down, and allow you to finish before they speak. Tell them you will give them the same respect after. Can't hurt to try.

  Can you ignore the elder? If he's been a jerk, you owe him nothing. You know you don't have to play by their rules. I hope your wife eventually comes around and sees the light. I know you will come out of this looking like the better person. You have us to talk to whenever you need. I hope your day gets better.
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  Just caught my 7 yr old watching 'Calebs Aeroplane' think I overreacted

  by not bitter in

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  at least i think thats what its called.

  she was watching it at my parents house just now.

  i asked what she was watching on my mums tablet and mum said whilst laughing 'oh sorry but she wants to watch bible stories' then all i heard was something about jehovah and keeping rooms tidy.

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  Just apologize. And keep your ears open.
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  My sister died

  by poppers in

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  just got word that my sister died.

  she had surgery for heart valve replacement about 5 weeks ago, and when they opened her up for it they found cancer.

  we had an extra special relationship since i was her "birthday present" when she turned 10 in 1951. this is my second sibling to die of cancer in 14 months..

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  Poppers, I'm so sorry for your losses. Mind boggling that with all the money going to cancer research, they can't find a cure!