It's safe to say that after being inactive for 3 years or so... they'll leave you alone. If you decide at some point to go back to meetings and participate, then they will DF you if it's been known that you were celebrating holidays, et al. But only if you decide to come back. There is a certain timeframe where they don't give a damn what you do, cos basically you're not really "known" as a witness anymore, but I'm not sure what that actual # of years is. Does anyone know?
Posts by JBean
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Disassociated
by LB ini'm new here and i'm certain this topic has been discussed in the past so please forgive me for bringing it up.
i've been inactive for about 3 years now and at this time would like to disassociate myself as i do plan to celebrate holidays and such.
so i think it is to my advantage to da myself before i get dfed.
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Another Michael Jackson oddity.
by Yerusalyim inback when mikey was still black and still part of the jackson 5 he and his family were all jw's in good standing right?
did michael and his dad get disciplined for mikey singing "santa claus is comin to town" that i just heard on the radio?.
yerusalyim.
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JBean
Joel, I believe Michael could "hook you up" for that surgery! : )
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Another Michael Jackson oddity.
by Yerusalyim inback when mikey was still black and still part of the jackson 5 he and his family were all jw's in good standing right?
did michael and his dad get disciplined for mikey singing "santa claus is comin to town" that i just heard on the radio?.
yerusalyim.
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JBean
I believe a few people have mentioned this in other threads and it's been noted that TVGuide cut and pasted from a very old interview... not a recent one. Plus... if you caught any of Mikey's latest concert on TV... he's DEFINITELY NOT a JW for too many reasons to list here! : )
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I FEEL SO USED
by Serena ini have been "fooling around" with brother charlie for a couple months.
going to his apartment and spending the night with him.
i am so in love with him, i would do anything for him, anything at all.
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JBean
Serena,
I would like to know how old you are (you say your b-friend is late 20's)? The way you are conveying your thoughts here is in a very hysterical way. If you take a few breaths and calm down, I believe you'll be able to digest all the information and suggestions you've read here. Realize that everything happens for a reason, and you are to learn from this experience. It's really up to you how you handle this situation. By his actions he is forcing you to act... so act, make a decision and stick with it. I personally think you need to really distance yourself from him... change your phone number even. If he is truly in love with you, he WILL make his way back to you, no matter what the circumstances and how hard you (perceive) you make it for him to come back. If and when he does come back, it would need to be with certain new "rules"... no more hiding, etc. Just my .02!
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Another Michael Jackson oddity.
by Yerusalyim inback when mikey was still black and still part of the jackson 5 he and his family were all jw's in good standing right?
did michael and his dad get disciplined for mikey singing "santa claus is comin to town" that i just heard on the radio?.
yerusalyim.
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JBean
Mikey's dad was never a JW. I believe only his mom and one of his older sisters and her family (kids & Hubby) are still in... (probably barely hangin' on.) I don't know about the other 4 brothers... but Michael was in the faith for a brief while when he was in his late teens/early 20's. I don't believe he has ever been "formally" disfellowshipped... 'cos I heard he still contributes mucho $$$ to the society. They don't want to lose that contribution, ya know. (About him singing holiday stuff when he was younger... his mom probably played the "my husband's not a JW" card and so the elders let her off easy.)
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What Should I Do (JW that Mentions Birthday)?
by Free Eagle ini have become somewhat friendly with a jw lady (i am also a woman and have gotten to know her over the past four years).
i am unsure of her status in the religion.
i am not a jw but have educated myself regarding jw customs, etc.... in conversation we found we were born in the same month, and she told me when her birthday was.
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JBean
I think that your friend is just aching to tell you about how she feels and how she may be having doubts about her faith, but is too shy or doesn't know how to broach the subject. I would definitely go with the idea to invite her out for a birthday cocktail! She may say no... that she's too busy... or she may tell you that she basically doesn't celebrate. Or, she may go and have a great time. I know with me that the changes in thought and actions came very slowly. I've been told by my friends (non-JW by the way!) that I'm the most festive JW "non-celebrator" they know! HA! I would stick with this and help her in her journey.
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Interfaith Relationship
by Christina77 ini am currently involved in a relationship for the last year and a half with a man that i found out about 2 months ago is a jehovahs witness (and i am catholic).
the only reason why i found this out, was that i was pushing the issue as to why his parents do not know that i exist.
this really irritated me since he has a very close relationship with his parents.
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JBean
Hi Christina...I've jumped ahead to post without looking through all 4 pages yet because I want to tell you that if you love this guy, please stick with him. (I'm now going back to read every entry here!) From VERY personal experience I can assure you that he CANNOT be disfellowshipped for marrying a non-witness. (If they find out you've been sleeping together tho'.... well look out!) From VERY personal experience I can tell you that he (and you by association) will be "spoken to" mainly by his family, not so much the congregation unless he is really, really actively involved in it. His family will make him feel like he is a traitor to God, etc. They will yell, cry, more than likely do anything to try to get him to change his mind. All you both need to do is really be prepared for this reaction and continue on with your plans to marry (or be together). The family (from MY experience) will eventually calm down (this may take a year or so, though) and as long as he's not disfellowshipped, will begin to "come around". You will definitely get the cold shoulder for a long while... but if you are as kind and loving as you sound here, they will learn to love you. I'm divorced now but I always joke about the fact that by the time I did file for divorce my family loved my (ex)husband more than me --they actually begged me to rethink the divorce and give my ex another chance!!! He NEVER converted but they loved him anyway after a while (I'm still "in" by the way...) Hope this helps. Please keep posting! Jbean
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To All Active, Loyal JW's--Read this....
by ashitaka injust a question, why do you come here?
are you doubting, looking for answers that the gb couldn't?
what is it you're trying to accomplish by participating on this board?
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JBean
I'm in the same situation as Troubled, although I haven't been to a weekly meeting in oh my, about 1 year now... but because of family & friends, still associate at assemblies, Memorial, etc. Anyhow... I continue to visit this site and participate to actually HELP me stay away. The things I'm learning here have stunned me, to say the least. But I can't quite bring myself to start informing my family who are 'in' ... kind of treading water at the moment. But... Thanks Simon and all... keep up all of your "good works". hee! : )
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first time post
by amazed injust nice to know that i'm not alone.
i'm truly amazed and had no idea unitil yesterday surfing on a whim i decided to confront my past.
it's a blessing for me and i feel another turning point in my life because now i have lots of people to talk to and i know now that i wasn't and i'm not going crazy and that it's not just me.
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JBean
Let me add my welcome to the bunch! These folks who've been on this board much longer than I have are truly great! Relax, share and enjoy! Jbean
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Since I'm on my soapbox today - Sex vs The WTS
by Leander ini'm still trying to make sense out of sex and the so called bibical view by the wts.
i guess to be fair to a certain extent the wts is only trying to follow the bible's view about sex, but i often wonder if maybe the current understanding is incorrect.. lets examine homosexuality for a moment.
for a long time i've always beleived what the society has taught in that homosexuality is wrong.
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JBean
Hey Leander! You're back! I was wondering about a week ago how you were and if anyone had heard from you. Glad to see you posting again. (Sorry, this reply had absolutely nothing to do with the thread!) : )