Posts by megsmomma

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My disagreement with hubby on use of Jehovah's name around JW's...input

by megsmomma in

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ok, this weekend i had a jw at my door and i sincerely gave a anti-wintess to him during which i did tell him i feel closer to jehovah than i ever have and i still believe in jehovah, just not the society.

my husband thinks i should have said "the lord" or "god" instead, because he thinks it sounds like i was being hypicritical in a way.. my take is that to sound like i knew what i was talking about, and to lessen the likliness of him turning his ears off right away, i should talk in a way he is comfortable with.. hubby thinks it is more beneficial to show you are free from their wording and say what you mean from your learning that jehovah is not god's only true name.. .

what do you say when talking to them if you get the chance?.

megsmomma

Ok, this weekend I had a JW at my door and I sincerely gave a anti-wintess to him during which I did tell him I feel closer to Jehovah than I ever have and I still believe in Jehovah, just not the society. My husband thinks I should have said "the LORD" or "GOD" instead, because he thinks it sounds like I was being hypicritical in a way.

My take is that to sound like I knew what I was talking about, and to lessen the likliness of him turning his ears off right away, I should talk in a way he is comfortable with.

Hubby thinks it is more beneficial to show you are free from their wording and say what you mean from your learning that Jehovah is not GOD's only true name.

What do you all think? What do you say when talking to them if you get the chance?

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My long story at least Part 1

by pmouse in

specifically christmas appears to be the one holiday to which all others compare.

we either joyfully or sadly recall past christmas holidays.

as i recall, they were controversial in our family even before i was born.. im going to go back a couple of generations in my story to give you a bit of background.

megsmomma

Wow....I can totally relate to you thinking you must have "started" the big "A" by doing something "bad". Poor little you at that young age already having the weight of the world on your shoulders. I am enjoying the life account!! Please keep it coming!

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We had a JW at the door today...how I handled it..

by megsmomma in

my first instinct was to tell him to go away and my husband was going to answer the door and i said, just tell him we are disfellowshipped.

(i am da'd....he hasn't ever been, but, he is "guilty by association" and conciders himself da'd too...).

so, it is one older man and he is handing out the "follow the christ" convention invitation.

megsmomma

My first instinct was to tell him to go away and my husband was going to answer the door and I said, just tell him we are disfellowshipped. (I am da'd....he hasn't ever been, but, he is "guilty by association" and conciders himself da'd too...)

So, it is one older man and he is handing out the "Follow The Christ" convention invitation. My husband does say we are disfellowshipped....but, he says it in such an unaffected way (like he was just saying 'no thanks, we aren't interested") that I don't think the man believed him....but, he was about to leave when I thought....Here is my chance....I have been waiting for this for a long time....I shouldn't waste it.

I go outside and my husband goes in and I tell him I was seriously thinking of going back about a year ago...but then I discovered things that are quite surprising. I mentioned the association to the UN...which he had never heard of, I talked about 607, I talked about the blood issue flip flops, and the child molestation settlement. He had the typical responses. He asked if I got my information on the (EVIL) internet...he talked of the light getting brighter and how mistakes in the past should not be focused on, he talked about the days of Noah and we need to be in the "ark" when the big "A" come to avoid being killed...lalalalalalala.

He also said he didn't want to argue anymore (which was not the tone of the conversation at all) and he left. I just hope I planted some kind of seed there.

My heart was beating so fast and I was really nervous talking to him.....I think that is really strange to feel that way. I felt love and compassion and pity for him. I think I handled it all right, who knows. I bet that will be our last visit from the local JW's here though, unless he sends some elders.

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Last Post

by Core88 in

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i have a family a son and a girl friend out of wedlock that's why i am disfellowshiped.

i hate my "lie" life.

and now is the time.

megsmomma

Hi Corey,

I know you don't know me...but, I have dealt with those feelings too. I lost my daughter when leaving "the truth"...I have done so many things I have regretted because I was so messed up and had no one that seemed to care about me. There were times I felt like my life was permantley damaged and I felt no hope. But, things do improve. You know the saying...there is no where to go but up. I feel for you truly with all my heart. Things will get better the more you realise how the "real world' works....and how you can recover from being in a cult. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) to you!

Lyndi

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I must smell!

by bluebell in

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just went on gabbly, there was one other user who left when i logged on and said hi!

megsmomma

Don't feel bad....I am not sure if the same people usually go there to talk or what, but I have never recieved a welcome....so I don't go. You aren't smelly!!

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Do you have all the friends you want to have?

by JH in

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i'm not talking about internet friends, but friends close by in your town.. so, do you have as many friends as you would like to have?.

when i was young and going to school, i had a few friends, but now i don't have any friends, but on the other hand, i'm a loner and i don't really care.

i'm not really searching for friends.

megsmomma

From all the comments, it seems like the norm to not have all the friends you want...and to enjoy being alone in a way. I wonder if this has to do with what we have all been through? (Having "friends" all around, then losing them all) Or maybe that is how most people feel?? It only takes being screwed over by a supposed good friend to lose the desire to do that again.

I am glad to see others who feel their significant other is their best friend too. I worry that I may be strange that way, but, I feel lucky to have him.....at least I have 1 friend!!

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Just another day in Paradise

by PopeOfEruke in

oh another day in paradise....lemme see, what year is it now?

oh i remember it's 2000 a.a. (after armageddon).. it's 27 degrees celcius - again.

blue skies - again.

megsmomma

You mean it is possible to get bored of riding all the exotic animals too? How about another fruit and veggie bbq at one of the "friends" mansions? (Oh, I am sorry, I hope saying bbq didn't remind you of that steak....ooops!) And why does it take you so long to learn an instument, takes me 2.5 seconds, you are lucky to still have a teeny bit of imprefection in you...I bet you can still even have dreams of kissing the opposite sex, darn it. (But, I am too perfect to feel jealousy over it....I should really report this to the Elders.)

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Ok... I read more than I post.

by Priest73 in

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but i've been here for about two years, and i feel like i'm friends with so many people that have no idea who i am.

i post every now and again, but mostly i just read.

any other lurkers who feel the same way?

megsmomma

I read way more than I post. I feel like I really keep up and feel love towards all the posters....but, I have an issue with posting much because I don't feel like I can contribute as much as the really "good ones" do.

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Do you have all the friends you want to have?

by JH in

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i'm not talking about internet friends, but friends close by in your town.. so, do you have as many friends as you would like to have?.

when i was young and going to school, i had a few friends, but now i don't have any friends, but on the other hand, i'm a loner and i don't really care.

i'm not really searching for friends.

megsmomma

Seriously....I am having a moment where I wish I did have a friend to call. My husband and best friend is on a business trip and I wish there was someone who cared about me to talk to right now. I can't believe I used to have so many so called friends that I do not have now. I am pretty sad about it all...... :(

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I need help finding something from a JW publication please...

by Riverwatcher in

i haven't posted here in such a long time!

most of you probably don't remember the details to my situation....in a nutshell, my son married into the jw cult, there is a grandchild involved and at the very least i want to always maintain a good relationship with my son, daughter in law, and grandchild.

this was my main concern from the beginning.

megsmomma

I am sorry for your situation.....unfortunatley, this is a VERY common discussion for the JW's...even amoung children. They constantly are told they are the only ones who have Jehovah's special approval, and how sad it is that some people just don't want to listen.

My daughter (now 9 and being raised as JW) when she was 3 said to me after I left the cult..."Mommy, you don't love Jehovah do you?" I said..."I still love Jehovah God...and he still loves me, it is just hard for you to understand cause your little." and she said.."Well it's hard to get moms to understand"..LOL....It is kind of funny if not so messed up.

The conversations they have is something like this....."Ok kids, we have to go to our bible studies house to study with them." Kid asks..."Does so and so love Jehovah?" Reply..."We are trying to teach them to".......

Another situation....someone in a store says "Merry Christmas" to them...child then asks parents.."Why do they say that? Don't they love Jehovah?"

It boils down to them asking questions on what they observe when they are around anyone not in their cult. If you have a x-mas tree, if you have a flag, if you don't go to the meetings, if you say "bless you" when they sneeze.....there are too many things to recall that will make you obviously not like them....which will make your grandchild ask "Does grandma and grandpa love Jehovah?" She is likely told..."No they don't listen to Jehovah, but, mabe you can help them....set a very good example" (They start useing the guilt tool at a young age too.)

It is a very sad thing...and I would just try to learn the things she is being taught by asking things here on how to conteract the things that come up. Just never sway in what you believe and never act like there is a chance she can convert you or make her think you agree with the cult in any way.

The book you saw was likely "My Book of Bible Stories"

Hope that helped some, and let me know if you have anything you would like to ask me...I have been doing as good as possible with trying to get my daughter to think for herself, though I have a LONG way to go.

Lyn